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Points: 4318 		Direct Link To This Post Posted: March 14 2007 at 19:49
Originally posted by andu andu wrote:


Wish me luck with this girl, guys. I'll need it...Tomorrow I'm leaving with her for Budapest, to have a three days trip and see the Van Gogh exhibition. Though she formally still is my girlfriend, during the last year she has strongly grown apart from me, for reasons unknown. For example, I got to see her just once in the last ten months; this is why this trip plan she unexpectedly accepted (because she wanted to see the exhibition but she had no other choice but my offer, nobody else wanted to go) it's a great chance for me to try to fix things. If the minimal context requirements will be fulfilled, I'll ask her to marry me. I know, the chances are by now very little, but 1. who knows? 2. I'm already desperate anyway, I can't just let my life slip through my fingers. I know I may well lose her in the time to come, and my life would become senseless, but at least I'd have the peace of mind for having acted as a man about the situation....so thanks for listening and see you  in three days' time.


Good luck to you. That's what being brave is all about. But... ¿why don't you try to understand the reasons for the distance between you both?. I mean, if I were you, I would like to know a bit about the subject. Anyway, I wish you a happy finale. Use your time wisely.
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Points: 28057 		Direct Link To This Post Posted: March 14 2007 at 22:51
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First of all, she may not know that you like her still.  Simply saying "you look beautiful tonight" is not the same as saying that you think she is an attractive person and you want to spend more time with her.

You may think that you have made it obvious what you want.  However, especially because she is shy, she may not be sure enough to act on what may only be an assumption on her part.
 
To "ask her out", you should ask her to do something with you.  I know, it seems you are in high school, it's more difficult then.  But, what do you have in common (going running together is probably not the best thing to do at first)?  Do you both like to smoke marijuana?  or just listen to music and talk?
 
The common movie idea is not really the best for a date in my opinion.  If you like someone intillectually, you would want to do something where you actually communicate with her.
 
Finally, here is my most important advice for you.  REALLY LISTEN TO THISShockedShockedShockedShockedShockedShockedShocked!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
 
Don't rush into asking someone out.  You should really get to know them very well before you do that.  I know it seems like a good idea now, and maybe you want to have a girl-friend really bad, but take things very slowly.  Make sure that you like her in pretty much every way and that she will not leave you whimsically.  Otherwise, you will get your heart broken and that is pretty much the worst experience.
 
Maybe you already know all this, but from what you say, you seem to really need advice.  I used to be in your situation, so I know what you are going through.
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Points: 211 		Direct Link To This Post Posted: March 15 2007 at 17:05
Tip - stop trying to work women out - we are cameleons by nature - think you've sussed us. Ha -try againEvil%20Smile
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Well, guys, it doesn't matter. We talked for a bit, and she told me it won't work out. Oh well. It's not a big deal.

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At least things are clear now. Now you can re-use all the good advices you received here for another girl.
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Originally posted by The Wizard The Wizard wrote:

Just ask her to a movie.



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Points: 8890 		Direct Link To This Post Posted: March 15 2007 at 21:21
Originally posted by Arrrghus Arrrghus wrote:

Well, guys, it doesn't matter. We talked for a bit, and she told me it won't work out. Oh well. It's not a big deal.


Were you in rock out mode when you were talking to her? Tongue
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Points: 21342 		Direct Link To This Post Posted: March 15 2007 at 21:21
Originally posted by Bluesaga Bluesaga wrote:

Originally posted by Arrrghus Arrrghus wrote:

Well, guys, it doesn't matter. We talked for a bit, and she told me it won't work out. Oh well. It's not a big deal.


Were you in rock out mode when you were talking to her? Tongue

Obviously not. If he were, she would have accepted out of fear...Wink
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Originally posted by Cygnus X-2 Cygnus X-2 wrote:


Originally posted by Bluesaga Bluesaga wrote:


Originally posted by Arrrghus Arrrghus wrote:

Well, guys, it doesn't matter. We talked for a bit, and she told me it won't work out. Oh well. It's not a big deal.

Were you in rock out mode when you were talking to her? Tongue
Obviously not. If he were, she would have accepted out of fear...Wink


You guys are so f**king insensitive.
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Originally posted by Arrrghus Arrrghus wrote:

Originally posted by Cygnus X-2 Cygnus X-2 wrote:


Originally posted by Bluesaga Bluesaga wrote:


Originally posted by Arrrghus Arrrghus wrote:

Well, guys, it doesn't matter. We talked for a bit, and she told me it won't work out. Oh well. It's not a big deal.

Were you in rock out mode when you were talking to her? Tongue
Obviously not. If he were, she would have accepted out of fear...Wink


You guys are so f**king insensitive.

Your response here only confirms the suspicion... did you have a lapse of judgment before you talked to her?Wink
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Points: 5296 		Direct Link To This Post Posted: March 15 2007 at 21:28
Originally posted by Cygnus X-2 Cygnus X-2 wrote:


Originally posted by Arrrghus Arrrghus wrote:

Originally posted by Cygnus X-2 Cygnus X-2 wrote:


Originally posted by Bluesaga Bluesaga wrote:


Originally posted by Arrrghus Arrrghus wrote:

Well, guys, it doesn't matter. We talked for a bit, and she told me it won't work out. Oh well. It's not a big deal.

Were you in rock out mode when you were talking to her? Tongue
Obviously not. If he were, she would have accepted out of fear...Wink


You guys are so f**king insensitive.
Your response here only confirms the suspicion... did you have a lapse of judgment before you talked to her?Wink


NO.
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Originally posted by oliverstoned oliverstoned wrote:

At least things are clear now. Now you can re-use all the good advices you received here for another girl.


Wasn't it the same girl?
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Points: 2567 		Direct Link To This Post Posted: March 15 2007 at 22:14
I think I am more upset about this than you Alex
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Points: 65 		Direct Link To This Post Posted: March 16 2007 at 00:57
Jus lten to her, and ask her about her feelings and call her everyday to talk about nothing, for a weird reason it works
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