Help with a girl...
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Topic: Help with a girl...
Posted By: Arrrghus
Subject: Help with a girl...
Date Posted: October 01 2006 at 16:57
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Note: I don't want to put this in WOMEN because I want people to actually respond to what I say!
Okay everyone, I need help with this girl who I really like. She runs cross country with me, she's cute (well, I think she's beautiful), and she's very shy. I went to my school's homecoming dance yesterday and I danced (or attempted to dance) in her group. There were only 2 slowdances and I couldn't dance with her during either one. However, I did sort of dance with her when several people hold hands and I held hers... and at the end of the dance, I told her "You look beautiful tonight." Now that she knows I like her, what should I do? P.S. She's not a very popular girl with boys all over her, so I potentially could go out with her... ------------- 
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Posted By: Cygnus X-2
Date Posted: October 01 2006 at 16:59
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Ummm, just ask her out would be the most logical conclusion I could draw. You obviously have a good chance of it going over well, so I wouldn't really worry so much about it.
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Posted By: The Wizard
Date Posted: October 01 2006 at 17:03
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Just ask her to a movie. -------------  
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Posted By: glass house
Date Posted: October 01 2006 at 17:03
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No matter what people say, it's still gonna be very difficult for you to talk to her.
Let me say that starting this thread is a very daring thing to do.
Maybe go to the girl and say : Hi, I am terribly shy but.................( say what you want to say.)
Good luck.
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Posted By: Arrrghus
Date Posted: October 01 2006 at 17:04
Well, how should I ask her out? I don't know how to ask girls out...  Wait, that's what this thread should be about: How do I ask her out?-------------
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Posted By: The Wizard
Date Posted: October 01 2006 at 17:09
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"Hey, wanna go to the movies with me?" -------------
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Posted By: Cygnus X-2
Date Posted: October 01 2006 at 17:10
Do as Mickey says, and you should be fine.  -------------
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Arrrghus wrote:Posted By: Arrrghus
Date Posted: October 01 2006 at 17:11
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Well, is "Hey, want to go out with me?" acceptable? -------------
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Posted By: Falling Flower
Date Posted: October 01 2006 at 17:12
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Stand infront of your miror, move your lips and make sounds. These sounds should sound like "Hey...I was wondering if you would want to see a movie with me." or whatever you'd like to ask/say. Try this in all different ways of speaking; natural, cool, overly secure, seducing, ...
Then say "screw this" and go up to her and ask/say what you practiced. You'll probably end up mumbeling it incredibly shy and half stuttering. ------------- 
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Posted By: Leningrad
Date Posted: October 01 2006 at 17:13
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Posted By: The Wizard
Date Posted: October 01 2006 at 17:13
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Actually works well is saying "Wanna hang out with me tonight?" then "Good, I'll pick you up at 8." -------------
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Posted By: JrKASperov
Date Posted: October 01 2006 at 17:15
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Aks her msn and then try it over the intarweb, that helps. (also, if you are living close together, try to limit the msnness between thee as much as possible, it doesn't work if you see each other often) ------------- Epic. |
Posted By: Uroboros
Date Posted: October 01 2006 at 17:15
Tell her you play tenor sax in an improvisational jazz band and that you like listening to progressive music of the Canterbury variety. 
Or just try to find the thin line between being shy and letting her know you are hopelessly mesmerised by her smile/mysterious appearance/delicacy etc.
Trying to be both innocent and daring at the same time is a technique that may, if used wisely, provide you with a charming aura.
And, of course, always remember to ask yourself why you want to be close to her.  ------------- Tous les chemins qui s’ouvrent à moi ne mènent à rien si tu n’es plus là |
Posted By: Mikerinos
Date Posted: October 01 2006 at 17:15
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"Hey babe, listen to this. It's Magma - Kohntarkosz. I think you'll really enjoy it." Oh... you aren't trying to break up with her.... ../Progressive_rock_discography_CD.asp?cd_id=3307 - ------------- 
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Posted By: Leningrad
Date Posted: October 01 2006 at 17:15
 liek hy wan go owt plx?
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Posted By: Padraic
Date Posted: October 01 2006 at 17:18
Cliche, but just ask if she wants to grab a cup of coffee sometime. You can just hang out and have a conversation and its low pressure. Afterwards, ask if she wants to go out again some night (movies, etc.) and make plans then and there - and get her phone number! 
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Posted By: Leningrad
Date Posted: October 01 2006 at 17:19
This thread = New VR
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http://www.progarchives.com/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=29260&get=last#2202420 - Help with a girl... Posted By: Arrrghus
Date Posted: October 01 2006 at 17:20
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Mike, Magma actually could scare prog fans. This girl doesn't like good music (as her friend says, "[she] only listens to people who make singles"). However, it doesn't matter. -------------
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Posted By: Arrrghus
Date Posted: October 01 2006 at 17:24
Ha, it could be! That would be great for me; I need the help! 
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Posted By: Sir Pommes
Date Posted: October 01 2006 at 17:24
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make it your way man if you not yourself she get it cinema is a good idea but there you can not talk to her much after the cinema you should go somewhere to with her then you have enough time to talk and the first topic could be the movie |
Posted By: Vompatti
Date Posted: October 01 2006 at 17:26
I don't think I can help you, but I wish you good luck. 
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Posted By: glass house
Date Posted: October 01 2006 at 17:37
| As said before, Hello would you like to go out with me. Go to a movie or something, later we can listen to GG, ......nah last bit better not. |
Posted By: Jared
Date Posted: October 01 2006 at 17:37
I can't help feeling that asking a load of prog fans how to get a girlfriend is a bit like going to your local synagogue for tips on practical pig farming... ------------- Music has always been a matter of energy to me. On some nights I believe that a car with the needle on empty can run 50 more miles if you have the right music very loud on the radio. Hunter S Thompson |
Posted By: Arrrghus
Date Posted: October 01 2006 at 17:40
Well, she may not like prog, but since Marillion can be romantic, she may like them. I was gonna say "well, girls like romantic stuff because that's how they differ from men," but I like them partly for the romantic stuff! (Fish era, btw). Well, I'll try this week, but knowing me... we'll see. I'll post here to indicate my actions! -------------
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Posted By: Arrrghus
Date Posted: October 01 2006 at 17:42
SO TRUE!!! Well, I've noticed a lot of people have girlfriends, wives (or boyfriends and husbands). Oh, and another thing: Ladies, what do you want to hear from a man when he asks you out for a date? -------------
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Posted By: Mikerinos
Date Posted: October 01 2006 at 17:43
Yeah, it really doesn't matter. It would be awesome to find a girl who actually has great taste, though. -------------
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Posted By: Leningrad
Date Posted: October 01 2006 at 17:44
If my girlfriend started humming Kobaia, I'd probably propose.
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Posted By: Arrrghus
Date Posted: October 01 2006 at 17:44
Wizzie found a girl who has good taste!
Seriously, it doesn' matter. Besides, I could get her to like one of the more accesible bands... (w/out coercing, btw). -------------
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Posted By: Arrrghus
Date Posted: October 01 2006 at 17:47
Whoah, a girl, no, normal human being humming Magma? (Sorry, women Magma fans). -------------
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Posted By: Leningrad
Date Posted: October 01 2006 at 17:48
Hey, that's a CATCHY song.
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Posted By: cuncuna
Date Posted: October 01 2006 at 17:51
You : "Hi. Listen; I really like you. Not only as friends, that is. So, knowing that: ¿would you go out with me?. I don't care about what to do and where, as long as you are there". If answer is "Yes", set a date to a quiet activity, and, when the time feels right, just kiss her, don't hessitate. She already say "Yes" to the whole thing, so there's nothing to fear. If it is too much trouble, do as I, and simply say: "I'm gonna kiss you know". If answer is "No", at least you know. That is a lot better than just wait and live imaginary perfect moments in your mind, that will eventually fall because you never did a thing and someone else entered into the situation. Plus: be yourself all the time. Don't force thing if the feeling is weird. (For instance, if she say: "sorry, but no", or "for Mankind's sake no", etc., just let it go, don't insists, don't make scenes, etc. ------------- ¡Beware of the Bee! |
Posted By: Arrrghus
Date Posted: October 01 2006 at 17:55
Oh, I won't make a scene! -------------
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Posted By: heyitsthatguy
Date Posted: October 01 2006 at 17:57
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Oh, sure, me talking about it every five seconds is annoying and emo, but Alex here makes a goddamned thread on it Anyways, I have experience doing this once, and that got TOTALLY f**ked up as I've told you before, but IGNORING THAT EXPERIENCE, I think you should just tell her how you feel, be honest, don't try to veil it but don't be too blunt, and if she likes you, she likes you, and if she doesn't, oh well. The best thing to do is not to get worked up over it. ------------- 
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Posted By: Arrrghus
Date Posted: October 01 2006 at 17:59
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Ah, but I want help with a success, not comfort from fallacies. -------------
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Posted By: heyitsthatguy
Date Posted: October 01 2006 at 18:02
Ah, but GO f**k YOURSELF -------------
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Posted By: glass house
Date Posted: October 01 2006 at 18:05
You misunderstood me. I said : nah last bit better not, that was the ' later we can listen to GG'
So just this : Hello would you like to go out with me, go to a movie or something...
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Posted By: chamberry
Date Posted: October 01 2006 at 19:31
Yeah. The bad part is when she completly forgets that you excist... ------------- 
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Posted By: Arrrghus
Date Posted: October 01 2006 at 19:38
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Luckily, this girl certainly knows I exist... everyone on the Cross country team knows me! I'm a flamboyant, bouncy, weird, and articulate individual who is well known; I'm just shy with girls, that's all. Extremely shy! -------------
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Posted By: VanderGraafKommandöh
Date Posted: October 01 2006 at 19:46
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Whatever you do, don't quote any Peter Hammill... Dude, just take it a step at a time. Speak to her, feel the vibe, if that vibe is odd, then leave it for another day. If you feel the vibe is good, then speak to her, but don't ask her out too soon, timing is essential. You never know, she may actually ask you out if you're lucky. Women generally want the guy to make the first move though and by first move, I mean asking them out on a date. Women aren't rocket science (not at this stage anyhow) and if you're good at reading people, that's even better. Read some books about physiognomy! One more thing; don't be nervous, or don't show your nerves. -------------   
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Posted By: VanderGraafKommandöh
Date Posted: October 01 2006 at 19:47
Who quotes Peter Hammill at the top of his lungs! -------------
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Posted By: The Whistler
Date Posted: October 01 2006 at 20:42
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Okay, no air flute solos. Got that? Kills a budding relationship, believe you me.
Of course, if the air flute solo WORKS by some weird happenstance...marry her. Right away. ------------- "There seem to be quite a large percentage of young American boys out there tonight. A long way from home, eh? Well so are we... Gotta stick together." -I. Anderson |
Posted By: Arrrghus
Date Posted: October 01 2006 at 21:08
Well, I'm shy with girls, but not with people! -------------
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Posted By: PaperDuck
Date Posted: October 01 2006 at 22:41
So we're not people now?
No, seriously, I know what you mean. Just couldn't resist. Aaaand... I don't have anything of substance to add that people haven't already told you. Good luck. 
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Posted By: cuncuna
Date Posted: October 02 2006 at 00:21
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Remember Frank Zappa: "The meek shall inherit nothing". ------------- ¡Beware of the Bee! |
Posted By: NutterAlert
Date Posted: October 02 2006 at 09:09
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Ditch her, she sounds like trouble to me. ------------- Proud to be an un-banned member since 2005 |
Posted By: toolis
Date Posted: October 02 2006 at 09:32
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start a conversation about your studies and tell her that you have a PHD... hopefuly, she'll ask you: "Really?" and you'll say: "Yeap, i have a Pretty Huge D**k!!!" let me know how it goes....  ------------- -music is like pornography... sometimes amateurs turn us on, even more... -sometimes you are the pigeon and sometimes you are the statue... |
Posted By: A'swepe
Date Posted: October 02 2006 at 10:39
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Anything that escapes your mouth & enters her ears along the lines of "I would like to take you to a movie, concert, dinner, etc", will do just fine.
You have common interests it seems - so start there. ------------- David - Never doubt in the dark that which you believe to be true in the light. http://www.myspace.com/aardvarktxusa - Instrumental rock http://www.soundclick.com/aardvarktxusa |
Posted By: cuncuna
Date Posted: October 02 2006 at 13:34
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Another approach. Risky, but it might work; and inspired by a previous post. Look at her, take her hand and say "I'm gonna make you my woman". Try to add some accent, something like Samuel Jackson. Let us know what happens next. ------------- ¡Beware of the Bee! |
Posted By: Pulse
Date Posted: October 02 2006 at 15:16
Ah yes, you're certainly right. People generally get the wrong idea when they see you doing air flute solos. Trust me, I know from personal experience...
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Posted By: Leningrad
Date Posted: October 02 2006 at 23:56
You're not the most subtle guy, are you?
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Posted By: darkshade
Date Posted: October 02 2006 at 23:59
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if she rejects you, just tell her to go back to her home on whore island! ------------- http://www.last.fm/user/MysticBoogy" rel="nofollow - My Last.fm 
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Posted By: Leningrad
Date Posted: October 03 2006 at 00:00
One of my friend's favorite insults is 'whore from whore island'.
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Posted By: darkshade
Date Posted: October 03 2006 at 00:03
haha. when will ferrel says that line, i laugh 60% of the time, which works every time ------------- http://www.last.fm/user/MysticBoogy" rel="nofollow - My Last.fm
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Posted By: Viajero Astral
Date Posted: October 03 2006 at 02:03
OMG!!  This thread is like a sign of God. Im on a similar situation  .------------- 
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Posted By: KoS
Date Posted: October 03 2006 at 02:16
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Posted By: NutterAlert
Date Posted: October 03 2006 at 06:18
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You lot are hopeless with women, honestly. ------------- Proud to be an un-banned member since 2005 |
Posted By: Arrrghus
Date Posted: October 03 2006 at 18:07
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Well, I asked her out, and she said, "well, I'm not sure. We can still be friends, though." Before anyone says that sucks (and it does, but not badly), I'm happy I asked her out without stuttering badly (hell, I asked a girl out!). She said (sincerely) we could be friends, and she never really said no, either (though she implied it). I'm not gonna get worked over it - rejection creates experience. Plus, she could think it over... -------------
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Posted By: The Wizard
Date Posted: October 03 2006 at 18:09
What did you say?
Be friends with benefits. -------------
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Posted By: Logan
Date Posted: October 03 2006 at 18:33
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It's been kind of a weird situation for me... I've dated a lot, and got married, and yet I've never asked asked a girl out or initiated a relationship. I never even proposed. I've always left it up to the girls to ask me out. If I was interested (romantically), I didn't express it. Some girls respond well to guys who don't show romantic interest in them. One makes them interested in subtle ways. I hung out with girls and listened to them without letting desire affect me. When you're not making yourself that available it makes women want you more. We always want what is hard to obtain. Have you seen the Tao of Steve? Now I was married before it came out, but that sums up my approach to women. The key to making yourself desirable is by eliminating desire. A quote: " http://www.imdb.com/name/nm0006610/ - Dex : Look at me. Look at me, okay? Technically, I shouldn't be getting laid, but I do. And do you know why, Dave? Because when I'm hanging out with a woman, that's all I'm doing is hanging out, talking, listening. I'm not sitting there thinking about how to get in bed with her. And this completely confuses them because they're saying "Wait a minute. I'm so much better looking than this guy. Isn't he attracted to me?" The basic principle: We pursue that which retreats from us." I talked to girls, listened for their interests, engaged them in it. If they liked doing something, (say hiking) then I have suggested that we should head out on a hike together in a not that interested sort of way (usually they were the ones to suggest it). Sometimes it took manipulative nudges to get them to suggest that we be more than friends. |
Posted By: Arrrghus
Date Posted: October 03 2006 at 19:29
Lucky. Girls don't approach me. I'm sort of taboo (girls don't tend to like the strange guys). -------------
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Posted By: Padraic
Date Posted: October 03 2006 at 21:06
Sorry it didn't work out my friend. 
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Posted By: yesfan88
Date Posted: October 03 2006 at 21:21
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Lucky. Girls don't approach me. I'm sort of taboo (girls don't tend to like the strange guys). [/QUOTE] That's where you're wrong. My boyfriend is quite strange, actually. (OK, we both like prog; we're both strange.) ------------- "I disapprove of what you say, but I will defend to the death your right to say it"- Evelyn Beatrice Hall |
Posted By: Australian
Date Posted: October 04 2006 at 03:47
That's something I guess
Better luck next time, perhaps she will come around... just do what Whistler suggested, play air-flute to her.
I have no trouble talking to girls, I just never find anyone worth talking to. I hope no one takes that the wrong way
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Posted By: Scapler
Date Posted: October 04 2006 at 07:52
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Obviously, the quickest way to a girl's heart is to right a concept
album for/about her. If she's not completly freaked out, she'll realize
just how awesome and shamelously romantic you are ------------- Bassists are deadly 
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Posted By: Scapler
Date Posted: October 04 2006 at 07:53
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Or, as the great Napoleon Dynamite once said: "Pedro, just follow your heart, that's what I do" ------------- Bassists are deadly
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Posted By: Scapler
Date Posted: October 04 2006 at 16:26
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You asked her out?! Why didn't you tell me this you cheeseball? Erghh, come on man, you see me every day. No Official Pope Seal of Approval for You! ------------- Bassists are deadly
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Posted By: cuncuna
Date Posted: October 05 2006 at 14:48
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Next time. There's always a next time. ------------- ¡Beware of the Bee! |
Posted By: JrKASperov
Date Posted: October 05 2006 at 15:08
Yeah, they're more like quantum mechanics. ------------- Epic. |
Posted By: Arrrghus
Date Posted: October 21 2006 at 22:16
Amen!! Felt like resurrecting an old thread. I'm very fond of this thread. -------------
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Posted By: heyitsthatguy
Date Posted: October 21 2006 at 22:21
Wonder why -------------
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Posted By: Arrrghus
Date Posted: October 21 2006 at 22:22
Well, maybe this is the spot where we should vent and not the VR. -------------
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Posted By: heyitsthatguy
Date Posted: October 21 2006 at 22:23
good idea at least, though I think with the nature of my whining I'm better off not venting on this site at all -------------
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Posted By: Arrrghus
Date Posted: October 21 2006 at 22:24
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Well, you whine in here and you're pleasant in the VR.
Wait for it... MAGMA!!!! -------------
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Posted By: heyitsthatguy
Date Posted: October 21 2006 at 22:26
Well, I can't say I have too much to complain about, I talked to her for about an hour and a half today over AIM, and she didn't seem pissed off/afraid, which is always a good sign -------------
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Posted By: Arrrghus
Date Posted: October 21 2006 at 22:29
Cool!!! I asked Helen to run with me, but she sort of said no... (Well, she said "I don't know" and that means no. Well, I didn't want to pressure her... Magma... Oh well!
Hell, she's more shy around me than I am around her. It's amazing when all the pressure just goes away when everyone knows you like a girl. 
Magma. -------------
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Posted By: heyitsthatguy
Date Posted: October 21 2006 at 22:34
Well, a lot of people know that I like the girl I like, it's just not too many of them know her personally but she seems to sort of like to talk to me...I'm not sure-------------
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Posted By: Arrrghus
Date Posted: October 21 2006 at 22:36
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Well, everyone on my X-C is close, so everyone plays around with me (and they tease Helen). I even think her parents know (they never singled me out to say "hi" and they said it in a teasing tone). I find the whole thing cool. It eases a lot of pressure and takes away most of any pain.
Then again, I'm listening to Magma, so what do I know? Magma. -------------
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Posted By: Asyte2c00
Date Posted: October 21 2006 at 22:38
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I am seeing this girl, I am thinkingabout asking herr to see Saw 3 next weekend.
Good Idea?
Bad Idea?
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Posted By: heyitsthatguy
Date Posted: October 21 2006 at 22:38
Well, my friend who knows a lot of girls say the girl who totally f**ked me over with that whole being called a stalker thing after I asked her out and all of them say she's an asshole for doing that...I guess that makes me feel a little better -------------
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Posted By: Arrrghus
Date Posted: October 21 2006 at 22:43
Well, does she get scared? Wait, I can't give advice... But I'll try! Good Idea if you will cling to you. Bad Idea if she hates scary movies. bad Idea if you get scared and she doesn't. -------------
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Posted By: heyitsthatguy
Date Posted: October 21 2006 at 22:52
Try picking a movie you think she'd like, and go through with it if she really likes it, no matter how agonizing it might be -------------
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Posted By: Arrrghus
Date Posted: October 21 2006 at 22:53
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Good Idea! -------------
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Posted By: tardis
Date Posted: October 21 2006 at 22:55
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In my experience the movies is just an excuse to make out, so it shouldn't matter what you go to see...you'll miss half of it anyway if you know what I mean...
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Posted By: Arrrghus
Date Posted: October 21 2006 at 22:56
Bite me.
I've never had I hot movie date (but I will eventually!) -------------
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Posted By: Scapler
Date Posted: October 22 2006 at 20:47
As long as Winston doesn't beat us to dating, we'll be fine My the gods smile upon us! ------------- Bassists are deadly
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Posted By: Chris H
Date Posted: February 23 2007 at 01:48
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Well since Alex resurrected my newbie post, it's only fair I bring back these amazing memories of his horrible pain
Erm, Magma? ------------- Beauty will save the world. 
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Posted By: heyitsthatguy
Date Posted: February 23 2007 at 01:58
Boy was I a whiny f**ker 5 months ago update: no girl problems because I don't talk to any girls, and there is no time for girls anyway when you're fighting medieval battles atop the wings of despair through sadness, chaos and madness, the pain and misery, we must RIDE ON!! -------------
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Posted By: Chris H
Date Posted: February 23 2007 at 02:01
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Yup, Dragonforce > interacting with the opposite gender ------------- Beauty will save the world.
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Posted By: heyitsthatguy
Date Posted: February 23 2007 at 02:02
Females know nothing of epic medieval battles  -------------
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Posted By: Chris H
Date Posted: February 23 2007 at 02:05
I'm sure Debby enjoys the occasional medieval battle ------------- Beauty will save the world.
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Posted By: Chris H
Date Posted: February 23 2007 at 02:06
Was??
Haha try, still are ------------- Beauty will save the world.
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Posted By: heyitsthatguy
Date Posted: February 23 2007 at 02:07
truuust me, as many of the other Velveteers know, it's nowhere near as bad as it was then  -------------
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Posted By: Chris H
Date Posted: February 23 2007 at 02:10
Worse than me two weeks ago, when Jodi took my heart and lit it on fire only and then throw it in a woodchipper and scatter the remains in the Dead Sea?  ------------- Beauty will save the world.
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Posted By: progismylife
Date Posted: February 23 2007 at 02:10
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You guys are pathetic!
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Posted By: Chris H
Date Posted: February 23 2007 at 02:12
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Yes Ben, yes we are. Very much so.
And how is your love life going, Cassanova? ------------- Beauty will save the world.
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Posted By: progismylife
Date Posted: February 23 2007 at 02:14
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Hehe don't have one. Too much Rush to listen to.
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Posted By: heyitsthatguy
Date Posted: February 23 2007 at 02:14
Far, far, far worse I wasn't at the best place in my life either, and it was more or less the last pillar to collapse before I completely lost it. But hey, I've got a wall of cynicism to protect me from those nasty things people call "emotions", so ha! -------------
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Posted By: Chris H
Date Posted: February 23 2007 at 02:16
Oh gosh, I pity the fool!
I havent lost my mind yet, so I still feel the pain  ------------- Beauty will save the world.
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Posted By: progismylife
Date Posted: February 23 2007 at 02:17
I lost my mind before being rejected by girls.
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Posted By: Chris H
Date Posted: February 23 2007 at 02:23
Thats a good thing! ------------- Beauty will save the world.
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