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Xanthous
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Topic: Forum Anxiety? Posted: November 06 2009 at 18:01 |
Ever since I started becoming a more active poster on Prog Archives, I've had this weird forum anxiety. I always take a lot of time thinking over my responses, and feel bad when people respond negatively to my posts. I found this incredibly weird though because outside of computer world, I could care less what I say. I'm not afraid to say whatever I want whenever I want to anybody I want, but online, with total anonymity I really control what I say.
Anyone else have this problem?
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TheCaptain
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Posted: November 06 2009 at 18:08 |
Thinking about responses and not sounding like a fool is always a good thing. To preempt anyone who will use this perfect set-up to poke fun at me, I will make the joke for you.
TheCaptain wrote:
Thinking about responses and not sounding like a fool is always a good thing. |
Well if it's such a good thing then why don't you do it? Anyway, few people on this site hold grudges and forget most things in a few days. Don't worry.
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Curse your sudden but inevitable betrayal.
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A Person
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Posted: November 06 2009 at 18:11 |
Not really, once you get to know everyone it isn't that bad. Like it was said in another thread, most PA members don't really hold grudges, but if you say something silly they will correct you. . It is a good thing to think about what you say before you say it, but don't be afraid of giving your opinion on anything. Different views are (or should be) always welcome.
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Queen By-Tor
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Posted: November 06 2009 at 18:17 |
I had it once...
then I realized that no one gives a sh*t, so...
f**k GENESIS!
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Padraic
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Posted: November 06 2009 at 18:22 |
King By-Tor wrote:
I had it once...
then I realized that no one gives a sh*t, so...
f**k GENESIS!
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Snow Dog
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Posted: November 06 2009 at 18:23 |
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Logan
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Posted: November 06 2009 at 18:40 |
Padraic wrote:
King By-Tor wrote:
I had it once...
then I realized that no one gives a sh*t, so...
f**k GENESIS!
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Yep. The key is realizing that people don't really care. And eventually you, like everyone else, won't really care about what you have to say either. I think many of us at some time make the mistake of thinking that we actually matter (or at least matter far more than we think). A sense of perspective helps.
Edited by Logan - November 06 2009 at 18:44
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A Person
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Posted: November 06 2009 at 18:45 |
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Xanthous
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Posted: November 06 2009 at 19:13 |
King By-Tor wrote:
I had it once...
then I realized that no one gives a sh*t, so...
f**k GENESIS!
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The thread has been won.
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manofmystery
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Posted: November 06 2009 at 22:13 |
Padraic wrote:
King By-Tor wrote:
I had it once...
then I realized that no one gives a sh*t, so...
f**k GENESIS!
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the anti-genesis revolution starts here 
and per your problem, maybe you should just picture your audience naked. this is progarchives after all, nothing but hot chicks posting here.
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TODDLER
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Posted: November 06 2009 at 23:39 |
I have my opinions on prog and I will only respond to a thread that interest me. As I won't respond to various threads because I can be annoying or don't want to waste the person's time that posted it. I appreciate being corrected because it's educational. There are many great prog informers that belong to the site. Sometimes I will wait to see their response but, apparently they are not interested in the thread and wish to remain discreet. Sometimes it's a b tch because you'll be thinking: Oh, if only this person or that person would just reply it would bring more insight to the subject matter.
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mrcozdude
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Posted: November 06 2009 at 23:47 |
I'm the opposite I don't put much thought into my posts.I tend not to get into in depth conversations despite having an opinion because people bitch & argue all the time,I just state the facts and go about my day.Do you get this on any other forums? Some people here,like everywhere love an argument.
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Gillywibble
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Posted: November 07 2009 at 04:32 |
Xanthous wrote:
Anyone else have this problem? |
Yes, particularly when the flamers and trolls start, it's a combination of anxiety mixed with anger and frustration. I tend to only be opinionated when it's a subject matter I am completely sure about.
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There is in fact more earth than sea.
http://www.last.fm/user/Gillywibble
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ExittheLemming
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Posted: November 07 2009 at 05:30 |
I don't think you have to be a member of PA for very long to recognise the sorts of responses that are going to derail any decent thread. Toddler's right here by stating that we should really confine ourselves to posting in threads we are genuinely interested in, otherwise you get that tiresome hijacking of say XYZ band appreciation threads where contributions along the lines of :XYZ band are for impotent shipping clerks afraid to speak to females, get a life douchebags jeez etc (Of which I have been guilty of in the past )
Similarly, I avoid political discussions like the plague, not because I feel I don't have anything worthwhile to say, but such threads ALWAYS degenerate into slanging matches between those types who start posts with that's what's wrong with this country and those who respond with posts that commence I'm not racist/homophobic/sectarian/anti-semitic/communist/misogynistic etc but.....
A quick summary primer of 80% of all arguments on PA:
Chicken is better than fish
No, fish is better than chicken
That's just your opinion it's not fact
But more people like chicken than fish and I can prove it demographically with venn diagrams and a You Tube video
Democracy is just majority opinion, it ain't fact
Well the lazy welfare scrounging stay at home fish voters need to get off their butts then
Both are better than Marillion though ?
Yep, agreed
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progkidjoel
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Posted: November 07 2009 at 05:35 |
Better than Marillion?
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ExittheLemming
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Posted: November 07 2009 at 05:42 |
progkidjoel wrote:
Better than Marillion?  |
Apologies, I was being glib and flippant again. No offence to fans of a band I unfortunately loathe (it's my loss)
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harmonium.ro
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Posted: November 07 2009 at 05:57 |
Just stay away of threads dealing with politics, religion and Roman Polanski and you'll be fine.
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akamaisondufromage
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Posted: November 07 2009 at 06:38 |
ExittheLemming wrote:
I don't think you have to be a member of PA for very long to recognise the sorts of A quick summary primer of 80% of all arguments on PA:
Chicken is better than fish
No, fish is better than chicken
That's just your opinion it's not fact
But more people like chicken than fish and I can prove it demographically with venn diagrams and a You Tube video
Democracy is just majority opinion, it ain't fact
Well the lazy welfare scrounging stay at home fish voters need to get off their butts then
Both are better than Marillion though ?
Yep, agreed
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Look Marillion may be better than Chicken (Bland inoffensive fodder) BUT BETTER THAN FISH? NO WAY !
Fish is better than Marillion (And I wish he hadn't left  )
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mystic fred
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Posted: November 07 2009 at 07:50 |
Forum anxiety ? ...just say what you would only say to someon'es face and you can't go wrong,
...though we all occasionally put our foot in it now and again... 
some people have no sense of humour... 
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mystic fred
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Posted: November 07 2009 at 07:52 |
harmonium.ro wrote:
Just stay away of threads dealing with politics, religion and Roman Polanski and you'll be fine. |
...and Dream Theater
Edited by mystic fred - November 07 2009 at 07:53
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