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    Posted: November 06 2009 at 18:01
Ever since I started becoming a more active poster on Prog Archives, I've had this weird forum anxiety. I always take a lot of time thinking over my responses, and feel bad when people respond negatively to my posts. I found this incredibly weird though because outside of computer world, I could care less what I say. I'm not afraid to say whatever I want whenever I want to anybody I want, but online, with total anonymity I really control what I say.

Anyone else have this problem? 
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Direct Link To This Post Posted: November 06 2009 at 18:08
Thinking about responses and not sounding like a fool is always a good thing. To preempt anyone who will use this perfect set-up to poke fun at me, I will make the joke for you.

Originally posted by TheCaptain TheCaptain wrote:

Thinking about responses and not sounding like a fool is always a good thing.


Well if it's such a good thing then why don't you do it?


Anyway, few people on this site hold grudges and forget most things in a few days. Don't worry.
Curse your sudden but inevitable betrayal.
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Direct Link To This Post Posted: November 06 2009 at 18:11
Not really, once you get to know everyone it isn't that bad. Like it was said in another thread, most PA members don't really hold grudges, but if you say something silly they will correct you. . It is a good thing to think about what you say before you say it, but don't be afraid of giving your opinion on anything. Different views are (or should be) always welcome.
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Direct Link To This Post Posted: November 06 2009 at 18:17
I had it once...


then I realized that no one gives a sh*t, so...


f**k GENESIS!
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Direct Link To This Post Posted: November 06 2009 at 18:22
Originally posted by King By-Tor King By-Tor wrote:

I had it once...


then I realized that no one gives a sh*t, so...


f**k GENESIS!


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Direct Link To This Post Posted: November 06 2009 at 18:23
Yes.

No flaming please!
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Direct Link To This Post Posted: November 06 2009 at 18:40
Originally posted by Padraic Padraic wrote:

Originally posted by King By-Tor King By-Tor wrote:

I had it once...


then I realized that no one gives a sh*t, so...


f**k GENESIS!


best post


Yep.  The key is realizing that people don't really care.  And eventually you, like everyone else, won't really care about what you have to say either.  I think many of us at some time make the mistake of thinking that we actually matter (or at least matter far more than we think).  A sense of perspective helps.


Edited by Logan - November 06 2009 at 18:44
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Direct Link To This Post Posted: November 06 2009 at 18:45
Originally posted by Logan Logan wrote:

Originally posted by Padraic Padraic wrote:

Originally posted by King By-Tor King By-Tor wrote:

I had it once...


then I realized that no one gives a sh*t, so...


f**k GENESIS!


best post


Yep.  The key is realizing that people don't really care.  And eventually you, like everyone else, won't really care about what you have to say either.  I think many of us at some time make the mistake of thinking that we actually matter.

I realized it a while ago. I have been happier here since. As long as I don't troll I don't think anyone could care less about what I say, being free to say what you want makes it more interesting anyway. Most topics have been beaten to death around here, so adding a little life to threads is nice.
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Direct Link To This Post Posted: November 06 2009 at 19:13
Originally posted by King By-Tor King By-Tor wrote:

I had it once...


then I realized that no one gives a sh*t, so...


f**k GENESIS!

The thread has been won.
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Direct Link To This Post Posted: November 06 2009 at 22:13
Originally posted by Padraic Padraic wrote:

Originally posted by King By-Tor King By-Tor wrote:

I had it once...


then I realized that no one gives a sh*t, so...


f**k GENESIS!


best post
 
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the anti-genesis revolution starts here Smile
 
and per your problem, maybe you should just picture your audience naked.  this is progarchives after all, nothing but hot chicks posting here.


Time always wins.
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Direct Link To This Post Posted: November 06 2009 at 23:39
I have my opinions on prog and I will only respond to a thread that interest me. As I won't respond to various threads because I can be annoying or don't want to waste the person's time that posted it.  I appreciate being corrected because it's educational. There are many great prog informers that belong to the site. Sometimes I will wait to see their response but, apparently they are not interested in the thread and wish to remain discreet. Sometimes it's a b tch because you'll be thinking: Oh, if only this person or that person would just reply it would bring more insight to the subject matter.
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Direct Link To This Post Posted: November 06 2009 at 23:47
I'm the opposite I don't put much thought into my posts.I tend not to get into in depth conversations despite having an opinion because people bitch & argue all the time,I just state the facts and go about my day.Do you get this on any other forums? Some people here,like everywhere love an argument.
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Direct Link To This Post Posted: November 07 2009 at 04:32
Originally posted by Xanthous Xanthous wrote:

Anyone else have this problem? 


Yes, particularly when the flamers and trolls start, it's a combination of anxiety mixed with anger and frustration.

I tend to only be opinionated when it's a subject matter I am completely sure about.
There is in fact more earth than sea.

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Direct Link To This Post Posted: November 07 2009 at 05:30
I don't think you have to be a member of PA for very long to recognise the sorts of responses that are going to derail any decent thread. Toddler's right here by stating that we should really confine ourselves to posting in threads we are genuinely interested in, otherwise you get that tiresome hijacking of say XYZ band appreciation threads where contributions along the lines of :XYZ band are for impotent shipping clerks afraid to speak to females, get a life douchebags jeez etc (Of which I have been guilty of in the pastEmbarrassed)

Similarly, I avoid political discussions like the plague, not because I feel I don't have anything worthwhile to say, but such threads ALWAYS degenerate into slanging matches between those types who start posts with that's what's wrong with this country and those who respond with posts that commence I'm not racist/homophobic/sectarian/anti-semitic/communist/misogynistic etc but.....

A quick summary primer of 80% of all arguments on PA:

Chicken is better than fish

No, fish is better than chicken

That's just your opinion it's not fact

But more people like chicken than fish and I can prove it demographically with venn diagrams and a You Tube video

Democracy is just majority opinion, it ain't fact

Well the lazy welfare scrounging stay at home fish voters need to get off their butts then

Both are better than Marillion though ?

Yep, agreed

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Direct Link To This Post Posted: November 07 2009 at 05:35
Better than Marillion?
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Direct Link To This Post Posted: November 07 2009 at 05:42
Originally posted by progkidjoel progkidjoel wrote:

Better than Marillion?


Apologies, I was being glib and flippant again. No offence to fans of a band I unfortunately loathe (it's my loss)
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Direct Link To This Post Posted: November 07 2009 at 05:57
Just stay away of threads dealing with politics, religion and Roman Polanski and you'll be fine.
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Direct Link To This Post Posted: November 07 2009 at 06:38
Originally posted by ExittheLemming ExittheLemming wrote:

I don't think you have to be a member of PA for very long to recognise the sorts of
A quick summary primer of 80% of all arguments on PA:

Chicken is better than fish

No, fish is better than chicken

That's just your opinion it's not fact

But more people like chicken than fish and I can prove it demographically with venn diagrams and a You Tube video

Democracy is just majority opinion, it ain't fact

Well the lazy welfare scrounging stay at home fish voters need to get off their butts then

Both are better than Marillion though ?

Yep, agreed

 
Look Marillion may be better than Chicken (Bland inoffensive fodder) BUT BETTER THAN FISH?  NO WAY !
 
Fish is better than Marillion (And I wish he hadn't left Cry)
 
 
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Direct Link To This Post Posted: November 07 2009 at 07:50
Forum anxiety ?  ...just say what you would only say to someon'es face and you can't go wrong,  Big smile 
 
...though we all occasionally put our foot in it now and again... Ermm
 
some people have no sense of humour...Ouch
 
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Direct Link To This Post Posted: November 07 2009 at 07:52
Originally posted by harmonium.ro harmonium.ro wrote:

Just stay away of threads dealing with politics, religion and Roman Polanski and you'll be fine.
 
 
...and   Dream Theater   Shocked
 
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Edited by mystic fred - November 07 2009 at 07:53
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