What makes you depressed.

Discussing what makes me depressed......

I've never been depressed, why do people use this word so lightly? Sad, yes I have been, even very sad, but depressed, no way.

Edited by Cristi - September 14 2017 at 11:55

Living and observing life, most days

Barbu wrote: Cristi wrote: I've never been depressed, why do people use this word so lightly? Sad, yes I have been, even very sad, but depressed, no way. Neither do I even if I came pretty close once, glad I took the right decisions at the right time (quit my job and total rest for a whole six months, was a pretty rough time). In fact it was more like a burn-out than a depression but be careful when you say 'no way' Cris, you never know man. Talking about real depression here. Not the 'normal' seasonal one.

I've been diagnosed with clinical depression, but I try not to get down about it.

Logan wrote: Barbu wrote: [QUOTE=Cristi] I've never been depressed, why do people use this word so lightly? Sad, yes I have been, even very sad, but depressed, no way. Neither do I even if I came pretty close once, glad I took the right decisions at the right time (quit my job and total rest for a whole six months, was a pretty rough time). In fact it was more like a burn-out than a depression but be careful when you say 'no way' Cris, you never know man.

so far, so good. 

Barbu wrote: Logan wrote: Barbu wrote: Cristi wrote: I've never been depressed, why do people use this word so lightly? Sad, yes I have been, even very sad, but depressed, no way. Neither do I even if I came pretty close once, glad I took the right decisions at the right time (quit my job and total rest for a whole six months, was a pretty rough time). In fact it was more like a burn-out than a depression but be careful when you say 'no way' Cris, you never know man. Talking about real depression here. Not the 'normal' seasonal one. I've been diagnosed with clinical depression, but I try not to get down about it. However silly that may sound: Don't give up, man.

I've accepted that depression is a pert of me, and I live with it and try to manage it, but I do try not to worry about it too much. With a good diet, exercise, some meditation, setting goals and accomplishing tasks, some entertainment and pushing myself to have some fun, it's quite manageable. I know this so disgustingly cliche, but laughter really can be the best medicine. Sharing a few laughs with people goes a long way, I find. Maintaining a sense of humour while in depression can be hard, but even then I find that many people love gallows humour (morbid jokes) when they are down. On that note, thanks, I plan to keep hanging on.... ;)

Insomnia.

Intelligent solipsists tend to annoy me, or at least I suspect they would if I came across them more. ;) The self is an illusion....

Anyway, what depresses me most is problems that my family are going through. Also, like Barbu, Insomnia. I can't remember the last night I slept more than three hours, and the less I sleep the less I can remember. For ages I was addicted to Zopiclone, but that stuff was toxic (I get very painful leg cramps at night). Last night I used Melatonin. Another thing that depresses me is knowing that I've written worthless long posts that add nothing of value to discussion, or don't lead to any discussion. A Although I have a wife and kids, I lead an isolated life. In work I communicate by emails, but it's very impersonal and am conversation starved. Like Cosmic, I think that love is of primary importance, and also it is very important to push oneself outside of one's comfort zone, and by posting I am pushing myself out of my comfort zone as I have social anxiety (not noticeable to those that I meet, but it exists), but I always fear how it will be taken (yet I'm not careful enough to write things in a way that doesn't ever come across as confrontational or unfriendly). Also, sharing personal things pushes me out of my comfort zone, but I know that I appreciate it when people do so they become more three dimensional, actual people rather than just words on a screen (feel you get to know the person behind the words somewhat, which also helps to understand how people communicate and what their interests are, which can give the posts some more depth and affect how you communicate with someone). The golden rule of treating others as you would wish to be treated is important to remind oneself of sometimes, as is the principle of charity in any debate.

For those who may not be familiar with the principle of charity, it's, to lazily borrow a definition that comes up on google, "a methodological presumption made in seeking to understand a point of view whereby we seek to understand that view in its strongest, most persuasive form before subjecting the view to evaluation."

In general, aloof people can depress me. Even say with a cashier, I hope for some personal connection when I buy my groceries (a smile and a laugh goes a long way with me) and that makes me feel kinship. That said, being shy, I've been called aloof, and when one is having a bad day one might across as flustered or unfriendly. I like people who are quick to laugh and slow to anger. it also depresses me that nobody found that Mental Health Hotline video funny, or commented on it. That which we find funny is that which we tend to identify with. As I always tell myself, try to live without expectations of others, but have expectations for oneself.

Edited by Logan - September 15 2017 at 10:41

Logan wrote:  it also depresses me that nobody found that Mental Health Hotline video funny, or commented on it. That which we find funny is that which we tend to identify with. As I always tell myself, try to live without expectations of others, but have expectations for oneself.