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Textbook 
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 Topic: Would You Consider Dating A Transsexual?
Posted: June 21 2012 at 05:44 |
This can be quite an uncomfortable question. People don't like to say "yes" for fear of being perceived as a pervert, but they also don't like to say "no" for fear of looking narrow-minded or homophobic. Personally, I think bother answers are valid. I did have a relationship with a transsexual* so obviously I tick the "yes" box. I don't have a particular justification for it, consenting adults can do anything they like. "No" is also fine. The biggest objection, and I totally accept it, is "I want to conceive children naturally". But where do you stand? Am I the only one who's actually been here? *Not that it really matters but no, I don't consider myself gay or even bi. It was like dating a woman.
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ExittheLemming
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Posted: June 21 2012 at 05:50 |
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Dick or no dick?, you decide voters
Edited by ExittheLemming - June 21 2012 at 05:50
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tamijo
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Posted: June 21 2012 at 05:56 |
Why ? I find it totaly irellevant to debate those kind og things with people on the internet. If i had an urge to talk to somebody about my sexual life, i would chose someone i actualy know.
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Textbook
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Posted: June 21 2012 at 06:05 |
ETL: Doesn't matter. Tami: It's a social issue. Transsexuals are alternative members of society outside the mainstream etc. They would like to be equal and integrated etc. To fully integrate, people need to be able to view them as viable potential partners. Are people in general able to do that or are they doomed to be forever on the fringes?
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someone_else
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Posted: June 21 2012 at 06:29 |
 Textbook wrote:
ETL: Doesn't matter.
Tami: It's a social issue. Transsexuals are alternative members of society outside the mainstream etc. They would like to be equal and integrated etc. To fully integrate, people need to be able to view them as viable potential partners. Are people in general able to do that or are they doomed to be forever on the fringes? |
In the last case, I would recommend them to date transsexuals of the opposite sex...
Edited by someone_else - June 21 2012 at 06:30
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Textbook
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Posted: June 21 2012 at 06:39 |
SE: Well that happens sometimes. But I'm asking if you would. To general assembly: Who knows, we quite probably have a transgendered person (or several) here on PA. I don't know of one, but it's quite likely with all the users in the database. Perhaps they're not out. In any case, don't talk about them as though they're not here.
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Slartibartfast
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Posted: June 21 2012 at 06:39 |
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Yes, but only female to male transsexuals. No, wait.
As a potential partner, I'd be more concerned about sexual functionality than reproductive capability, but personal compatibility ranks above that when dating to seek a long term relationship.
So, personally, affirmative for dating, hell, I'd have considered dating guys when I was single, but I never sought that out nor met any men that I was interested in romantically.
Edited by Slartibartfast - June 21 2012 at 06:44
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Released date are often when it it impacted you but recorded dates are when it really happened... 
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Textbook
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Posted: June 21 2012 at 06:44 |
Nah, I was never into dudes. Not saying that to sound manly, it's actually the case. Re: the poll question, I was thinking longterm relationship. If we're talking one-night stand, who the hell cares. It's only in an LTR scenario that this would be a thing. The other killer is envisioning yourself telling your family/friends. Most people are super duper freaked out by that.
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Slartibartfast
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Posted: June 21 2012 at 06:51 |
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Family and friends shouldn't enter into it. Unless someone told them, they wouldn't need to know.
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Released date are often when it it impacted you but recorded dates are when it really happened...
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Textbook
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Posted: June 21 2012 at 07:01 |
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I would tell them. There's always the possibility that they would find out by accident, but more importantly, not telling is kinda like telling your transsexual partner that they're a dirty secret they're ashamed of. If I were TS, I wouldn't want to be with anybody like that.
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stonebeard
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Posted: June 21 2012 at 07:04 |
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No. I want a more or less normal relationship in my view. This does not fit the criteria.
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rushfan4
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Posted: June 21 2012 at 07:31 |
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No.
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Textbook
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Posted: June 21 2012 at 07:32 |
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I can't force you to, but explanations are kind of the point of the thread.
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rushfan4
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Posted: June 21 2012 at 07:38 |
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I believe that based on the subject matter it is pretty self-explanatory.
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Textbook
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Posted: June 21 2012 at 07:41 |
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No, not really. At least not to me. Remember, I had a serious relationship with a transsexual. I can't presume your reasons for not being able to countenance doing so, unless it's blind bigotry, but I'm pretty sure that's not how you'd put it.
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rushfan4
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Posted: June 21 2012 at 07:53 |
Call it bigotry. Call it freedom of choice. I respect an individual's rights in these matters as much as the next guy, but I still find it strange or creepy or whatever similar adjective you want to interject.
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ExittheLemming
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Posted: June 21 2012 at 07:56 |
Textbook wrote:
No, not really. At least not to me. Remember, I had a serious relationship with a transsexual. I can't presume your reasons for not being able to countenance doing so, unless it's blind bigotry, but I'm pretty sure that's not how you'd put it. |
How can any of us forget you had a serious relationship with a transsexual ergo, our misgivings about such must amount to blind bigotry through experiential ignorance. Thank you for allowing us to express this aforementioned 'blind bigotry' in more palatable terms. Blow it out your ass with my regards etc 
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Textbook
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Posted: June 21 2012 at 08:00 |
And THAT is how you be an admin, gentlemen.
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Slartibartfast
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Posted: June 21 2012 at 08:14 |
rushfan4 wrote:
Call it bigotry. Call it freedom of choice. I respect an individual's rights in these matters as much as the next guy, but I still find it strange or creepy or whatever similar adjective you want to interject. |
No means no, but I'm happy Textbook has such an intense interest in your vagina. 
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Released date are often when it it impacted you but recorded dates are when it really happened...
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frippism
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Posted: June 21 2012 at 08:16 |
tough question... Maybe. I don't know. No vote.
I guess I'd like if anything to reproduce but then again if I was with someone who originally and still was a girl and couldn't get pregnant I'd probably care less, but then again there's always those women who get pregnant with the couple's baby and sh*t.
But I honestly don't know, I never dated one... well that I know was a TS at least....
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