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Poll Question: Cohabitation, shacking, whatever the term, do you approve?
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Originally posted by Slartibartfast Slartibartfast wrote:

Originally posted by ExittheLemming ExittheLemming wrote:

Marry whenever you like but live apart and just visit on the weekends. Much more fun and something to look forward to.Wink

And never have sex because abstinence makes the heart grow fonder. LOL


As far as I'm concerned, any guy in my life is more likely to get laid if I don't have to pick up his dirty underwear or cook for him every damn night... Tongue
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Originally posted by June June wrote:

Originally posted by Slartibartfast Slartibartfast wrote:

Originally posted by ExittheLemming ExittheLemming wrote:

Marry whenever you like but live apart and just visit on the weekends. Much more fun and something to look forward to.Wink

And never have sex because abstinence makes the heart grow fonder. LOL


As far as I'm concerned, any guy in my life is more likely to get laid if I don't have to pick up his dirty underwear or cook for him every damn night... Tongue


But to be realistic, that's like bumping his chances from 1% to 3%. Tongue
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Originally posted by stonebeard stonebeard wrote:

Originally posted by June June wrote:

Originally posted by Slartibartfast Slartibartfast wrote:

Originally posted by ExittheLemming ExittheLemming wrote:

Marry whenever you like but live apart and just visit on the weekends. Much more fun and something to look forward to.Wink

And never have sex because abstinence makes the heart grow fonder. LOL


As far as I'm concerned, any guy in my life is more likely to get laid if I don't have to pick up his dirty underwear or cook for him every damn night... Tongue


But to be realistic, that's like bumping his chances from 1% to 3%. Tongue



Can I assume you're making a generalisation about women here?

Actually, based on my own long-distance relationship, to be honest, having to cook for him a few nights in a row would be a nice change of pace.

I voted for the last option, by the way, but if we ever decide to go through with this thing, it's likely I'll be in the same kind of situation as Mickey and Raff, which is kind of ironic.


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Originally posted by June June wrote:

Originally posted by stonebeard stonebeard wrote:

Originally posted by June June wrote:

Originally posted by Slartibartfast Slartibartfast wrote:

Originally posted by ExittheLemming ExittheLemming wrote:

Marry whenever you like but live apart and just visit on the weekends. Much more fun and something to look forward to.Wink

And never have sex because abstinence makes the heart grow fonder. LOL


As far as I'm concerned, any guy in my life is more likely to get laid if I don't have to pick up his dirty underwear or cook for him every damn night... Tongue


But to be realistic, that's like bumping his chances from 1% to 3%. Tongue



Can I assume you're making a generalisation about women here?



 I wasn't trying to. Only supposing the mere act of not leaving dirty underwear everywhere wouldn't get the guy to 100% assured Laidsville. I dunno I guess my wise cracking was off that day.
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June, I live at home and I still put my dirty underwear in the hamper by myself, will you sleep with me?
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Originally posted by Negoba Negoba wrote:

Originally posted by Dean Dean wrote:

 
So, yeah, my wife and I had a "test drive" for a couple of years before marrying, but it was the only one we had and we didn't have alternative models lined-up for test drives should there have been any defects in build-quality or handling - sure prior to meeting each other we had take other's for a spin around the block, looked under the hood, checked the lubrication and kicked the spare tyre but beyond that no test drives were necessary.
 
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on topic:  we lived together before getting married, seemed to work out alright.

not much more I can say besides that.
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Considering modern society, I think it's best for people to get to know their partner in that way before tying the legal knot!
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Originally posted by Padraic Padraic wrote:

Originally posted by Dean Dean wrote:

Originally posted by Negoba Negoba wrote:

Originally posted by Dean Dean wrote:

 
So, yeah, my wife and I had a "test drive" for a couple of years before marrying, but it was the only one we had and we didn't have alternative models lined-up for test drives should there have been any defects in build-quality or handling - sure prior to meeting each other we had take other's for a spin around the block, looked under the hood, checked the lubrication and kicked the spare tyre but beyond that no test drives were necessary.
 
Sounds like a bad 80's song. or 500.
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billy joel is awesome you freaking prog snobs


Maybe 70s Billy Joel...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gaAX8x2qOxM (Explicit language warning, blah blah blah)
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I'm not religious, therefor marriage means absolutely nothing to me...it's basically like...well we're in a relationship.  If we get married we'll be in a relationship and a church says its okay.....
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Originally posted by stonebeard stonebeard wrote:

Originally posted by June June wrote:

Originally posted by stonebeard stonebeard wrote:

Originally posted by June June wrote:

Originally posted by Slartibartfast Slartibartfast wrote:

Originally posted by ExittheLemming ExittheLemming wrote:

Marry whenever you like but live apart and just visit on the weekends. Much more fun and something to look forward to.Wink

And never have sex because abstinence makes the heart grow fonder. LOL


As far as I'm concerned, any guy in my life is more likely to get laid if I don't have to pick up his dirty underwear or cook for him every damn night... Tongue


But to be realistic, that's like bumping his chances from 1% to 3%. Tongue



Can I assume you're making a generalisation about women here?



 I wasn't trying to. Only supposing the mere act of not leaving dirty underwear everywhere wouldn't get the guy to 100% assured Laidsville. I dunno I guess my wise cracking was off that day.
I think it was hilarious :-) reminds of that Dutch tennis ( Richard Krajeck) star a few years ago who said women's tennis is no longer the same because it was all lesbians playing. Anyway there was a huge uproar and a quick press conference was gathered together where he apologised profusely and that he did not mean all women tennis players were lesbians only 99 % of them...LOL Kind of the same humor, very good.
 
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Hmmm, I take care of my own laundry, my wife does most of the cooking, and our love life is wonderful.
Released date are often when it it impacted you but recorded dates are when it really happened...
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Originally posted by Slartibartfast Slartibartfast wrote:

Hmmm, I take care of my own laundry, my wife does most of the cooking, and our love life is wonderful.
Ah, my wife does the laundry and I cook ... I detect a pattern here.. Ouch
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I think this thread should stay open in the main page until June will answer Henryplainview here in public ! LOL
 
To the topic. My own experience is living with the girl a year and a half before marriage (and it was quite hard to her family cause of religious feelings they had) and after 19 years of marriage (and 2 kids) we divorced.
I think this period of living together was important to us to realise we want to live our life together but the thing is that in such a long period things changes and what was good when you were 25 years old is not what matters when you are 40 years old.
I am today in a relationsheep which will not come to marriage since both of us feel it is irrelevant for us but as many others here said it is something individual and I do not claim that what's fine with me suits any other so I did not vote. Oh, I don't have a daughter so this may be unfair but she got to have sex someday and the age of 19 sounds O.K. to me.
 
I liked Cp's post. Laughed a lot. However, I'm sure if you realy wanted it, you would have find it (you see, even I managed to find a girl that is not only smart, beautiful and kind but also thinks I'm quite alright myself , god knows why).
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^ I think you make the case there that should not live together after marriage. LOL
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Points: 17847 		Direct Link To This Post Posted: October 04 2010 at 15:35
Originally posted by Dean Dean wrote:

Originally posted by Slartibartfast Slartibartfast wrote:

Hmmm, I take care of my own laundry, my wife does most of the cooking, and our love life is wonderful.
Ah, my wife does the laundry and I cook ... I detect a pattern here.. Ouch
 
Well this weekend I did about 4 loads of laundry, ironed a bunch of my dress shirts....but she cooked. She's a Cajun Coon Ass...so her food is much better than mine.
 
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Marriage means taking a vow, so you should not rush into it. Anyway, Jean and I had to wait for almost seven years before we could marry because it had not been legal before that. Ah well, the special problems of same-sex relationships.


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Originally posted by Henry Plainview Henry Plainview wrote:

June, I live at home and I still put my dirty underwear in the hamper by myself, will you sleep with me?
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Originally posted by Dean Dean wrote:

Originally posted by Slartibartfast Slartibartfast wrote:

Hmmm, I take care of my own laundry, my wife does most of the cooking, and our love life is wonderful.
Ah, my wife does the laundry and I cook ... I detect a pattern here.. Ouch


The pattern being sharing chores?

Sounds good to me.


And no, Henry, I will not sleep with you, my heart belongs to MrFirmTush and you're too young for me. But thanks for offering Wink (if that's what you were doing Tongue). I was merely suggesting that it's easier to keep the magic alive in a relationship if you don't have to deal with the boring day-to-day annoyances.
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Ouch  Oooohhhhh.  Rejected on a public forum.   That should make Henners even more unhappier than usual.
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