Relationships anyone?

Relationships anyone?

No thanks, the one I have is plenty. 

One night while walking on the beach, I saw paths surrounded by bushes which led to a lighthouse. I had been walking and thinking hard about becoming a monk. A tall girl with brown hair down to her waist was walking towards me . Our eyes met and we walked towards each other and began to kiss. We held each other as if we knew each other for years. She then walked away and I never saw her again. I don't know if she was drugged, a cult member, or a mental patient. I just knew she was beautiful. That short moment was a better high than any marriage I had experienced.   

 

I never had a girlfriend until I was about 20.  I thought that I would be a perpetual bachelor and used to get quite self conscious about it.  I was painfully shy, and the thought of approaching a woman would render me completely tongue-tied, but all sorts of unexpected things happen in life.  I have now been married for14 years and have two children (one aged 12 the other 10).  I love my wife very much and she loves me.  My life is completely different in every way (apart from my love of Prog, which started when I was 15) compared to when I was 19 years old.  So, don't use the here and now as a map for the rest of your life.  You never know what is just around the corner!

el dingo wrote: rushfan4 wrote: The wise sage Jon Anderson (or was it Trevor Rabin) once sang "Owner of a lonely heart, much better than the owner of a broken heart".     Yeah sure but didn't Shakespeare say 'Tis better to have loved and lost then never to have loved at all'?

One of them is right. Flip a coin if you aren't sure.

My deal is NOT dealing with the aftermath of a relationship that has fallen apart. All or most of the people who were in your girlfriend's circle of friends are now questioning your business. It's a bit like being put on the judgement stand. Sometimes people can be vague and it may seem that they are avoiding such an issue but don't count on it. The gossip goes round and it's better to disappear for a while. Some ignorant idiots have the tendancy to bring all of your past to the forefront 25 or 30 years after the fact.  It's a drama and foolish to ponder over true. But I've gotten into more fights with people over the years, who try to bring up old s-it and aim to spread it in your face. Whether it be at a dinner party or just a social gathering with your kids. I hate being around people like this more so than the person that I once had the relationship with. It's like there is a committee of adults who use intelligent words to convey and justify a retarded mind set of their own. One that puts your butt in a sling, in more ways than one. They usually want to hear both sides of the story so that later, they can make a judgement towards you. They will black ball you from getting a date with a female friend of theirs or just try really hard to give you a bad name to everyone. Everytime this kind of situation has happened to me, I have physically moved to another town. That's the beauty of freedom. You can not only leave it all behind and throw the bad memories by the wayside, but you can always start a new life in a new place.  

My mum said to me I'm a nicer person when I'm not in a relationship yesterday.

StrengthandWisdom wrote: I guess you kind of have to accept that they will just suddenly end for some scientifically unknown reason.

Don't worry too much man, this sums it all up very well

This is somethign I can't help but despair over.

 

How the HELL am I going to ever get to know someone, if I get so nervous and over-analytical? I cant control it, I don't how I am supposed to f'ing get anywhere.

 

Maybe you do get better at it, but by that point you will have missed a whole lifetime of potentially great relationships and companions.

 When it comes to relationships i have had my share of lonely days,not being particularly tall (5'8) i guess didn't help and i had many occasions where i was out with friends met a girl who i got on really well with and thinking "YES" only to watch her leave with some jock.Even 16 years of martial arts training didnt seem to help with the ladies.

there were a few relationships but non lasted long and i was resigned to a life of batchelorhood,something i did not relish.As time went by and i thought about it i realised that a lot of my problem was my attitude i was so conditioned to rejection that i would give up before i started and it must have shown in the way i comported myself.