Relationships anyone?

I have this to say about relationships:

I really cannot be bothered anymore. That said, if the right woman comes along and I'm in full confidence, then I won't let her slip through my fingers. But I have spent too much time and money on women that I have to to chase after because another man's in the equation. I have better things to worry about. I've broke up one too many times (for one reason or another) and my heart is in bits, so I simply trust a relationship anymore.

You're still young dude, and you're in the USA. BE something. Work hard, because no doubt by the time you reach 30 you'll be f**ked (in laman's terms) and there is no turning back. And who says you can't have fun with women without being in a "relationship" with them? Looking back now I find the whole term ridiculous. If you love a women, you love a women. End of.

The Pessimist wrote: I have this to say about relationships: I really cannot be bothered anymore. That said, if the right woman comes along and I'm in full confidence, then I won't let her slip through my fingers. But I have spent too much time and money on women that I have to to chase after because another man's in the equation. I have better things to worry about. I've broke up one too many times (for one reason or another) and my heart is in bits, so I simply trust a relationship anymore. You're still young dude, and you're in the USA. BE something. Work hard, because no doubt by the time you reach 30 you'll be f**ked (in laman's terms) and there is no turning back. And who says you can't have fun with women without being in a "relationship" with them? Looking back now I find the whole term ridiculous. If you love a women, you love a women. End of.

"Help that you might find the answers, you can't know before you live. Love and life give you chances, from your flaws. Learn to forgive" -Daniel Gildenlow, Pain of Salvation - Remedy Lane.

walter digs girl

toolis wrote: well, i'm not alone in my life, but - trust me - i've had my share of dry spell, alright!!! some points: i don't believe in friendship between man and woman, at least i wouldn't call it a friendship... second of all, there's not a perfect match.. people may spend their entire lives and never get to know their more suitable match and others find it - and keep it - since childhood.. i have examples for both circumstances... women are a different species who came from Mars to mate and then destroy human (man) race... that's a joke....    love is life.. cliche as it sounds, it's true... hurt is also life... sad but true....    whatever conclusio you may come to, don't give up.. go out there, love and be loved, get hurt, don't hurt, LIVE!!!!    ok, that's about it....

Wise words, too much prog? Joking, you really inspired me.

"I find the normal everyday macho guy thing pretty repulsive"
Just like me lol.
I may listen to a lot of metal, but really I'm a f**king pussy and I'm extremely open about my emotions with my females friends while my other male friends keep them hidden away because it's "MOAR METUL TO NOT TELL ANYONE HOW YOU FEEL OR SHOW YOUR EMOTIONS".

But yeah, as it is, I regularly go through phases of being extroverted and other times just totally shying away from other people as much as possible.
Yeah in a way that's cool, because it means I can listen to sh*t loads of music/read heaps of stuff in a given day if I feel like it, but I seriously doubt I could say in 10 years time that creature comforts would be enough to keep me sane. Someone once told me creature comforts simply aren't a substitute for love and I reckon they're right.
I couldn't picture myself being 30 years older and being alone and just listening to music all day after work or reading, I'd probably kill myself.

Edited by mystic fred - October 27 2009 at 03:21

I was alone a long time (been with the same woman 13 years now) and alot of it had to do with two things: my own anxiety and just thinking about it too much, and aiming for the wrong kind of woman.

Meh, I spent all high school and the first half of college just terribly upset that I never got to be in any sort of relationship. At some point, though, I grew up a little bit and got a lot less self-obsessed. I haven't lived too large a portion of my life (barring some sort of early death, but you get what I mean), but I have seen a lot of people drive away significant others simply because they treated them like a means to feeling better about themselves or getting laid. Being in a relationship is a wonderful thing because it gives you a good chance to not sit there and focus entirely on yourself all the time.

As a side note, you know all those people talking about needing to find themselves, the real people they pretend to think they can't find? I found the real me at apparently a really early age... and let me tell you this, the real me is pretty annoying. Kind of tired of him. Anyways.

There's a poem out there called something like the Ode to Nice Girls. Give it a read. Guys tend to shoot for specific types of girls that really don't work for them. At least in high school and college and just out of college in America, they do. I used to get all hung up on girls who were really outspoken, often tomboyish, etc. But when I stopped to pay attention, it turned out that one quiet, sweet girl rocked my world way more than any of the random crushes I ever had could.

And I can't wait to be married, have kids, and be stuck in a routine of difficult life. Because it's not all about me. I'd love to have to sacrifice my dignity for my family. It's a lesson I really need to learn, anyways.


And apparently I type a bit too slowly, because Negoba beat me to most of the things I tried to say. Huh.


Edited by LiquidEternity - September 15 2009 at 13:43

Relationships?  No thanks, I'm trying to cut down. 

Chandler (Friends):

"And I'd like to believe that when the right woman comes along, you will have the courage and the guts to say, 'No thanks, I'm married!!!"