Carrying contraceptives

Thats nice Glass House.

My oldest daughter is 11, she's not that occupied with boys. We are very open so she allready knows enough. When she is older we are gonna talk about contraceptives whether it be condoms or the pill.

Ghost Rider wrote: Sean Trane wrote: bhikkhu wrote:    I have a different view now. Although I still don't think marriage is neccessary, I do believe that two people should be absolutely sure that it is the right thing to do. There are many emotions involved, and it is very easy for someone to get hurt. For this reason, I have been celibate for almost four years. I do not wish to cause any harm. That includes myself. When I meet someone, and I am sure it is the right thing to do, this period will be over.               Uuuhhh!!..........   Sex is meant to please not harm. especially when the two individual appreciate each other.   Just thought I'd remind you of this.   While I respect your celibacy, it is best to try out sex fairly soon in the relationship, because that is a factor that can intervene (inadequacies, strong distastes , simply bad physical chemistry >> which is possible even when the characterial chemistry is fine) into whether to keep going in that relation.     Generally nobody is having sex with someone the do not appreciate (outside the prostitution thing) at least quite a bit!!! or else, they are masochists (and THAT my friend is a whole other debate) Hugues, yours is the point of view of a decent human being, who respects others as well as himself. You'd be surprised at the number of people who use sex to harm others - and I'm not talking about rape (which has nothing to do with sex, anyway). Having sex with somebody who is in love with you when you are not is a wonderful way of hurting them, especially when you can't be honest about that from the very beginning. This is why I tend to endorse Bhikkhu's views, which are quite rare in men, and nowadays also in women. It's not moralism, but rather a moral issue - to me, immorality is making others suffer. I hold these views because I've suffered a lot in the past because of men's dishonest behaviour. And I could write a book about the appreciation thing... If you mean "fancy", that's one thing - pure physical chemistry. Appreciation goes deeper, and involves other aspects than the purely physical.That said, I agree with you that it's best to try sex soon in a relationship, unless one is only interested in only having a spiritual bond with their partner.

    
Thanks for the support Raffaella.

My point was about emotional distress. I have been the cause, and the recipient of it in the past. I have found that even if it is just supposed to be casual, there are always some underlying emotions. You may not even realize it at first, but it can easily surface afterwards. I do not wish to cause harm in any way, shape, or form. Yes, I know that sometimes it is not intentional, but I will do my best to avoid it. That is all that can be expected.

Thanks for reminding me.....

Bob Greece wrote: Majestic_Mayhem wrote: Its 12 YES to 1 NO.. guess who answered NO I wish someone would come in and answer NO and explain his/her side   Saying 'no' is the same view as that of the Catholic church. Sorry to bring religion up but it has been mentioned a few times already. The Catholic church thinks that if people don't carry or use condoms then they won't have sex. This is wrong. agreed, (Im a non Catholic BTW)   If you rephrase your question into "Would you encourage your children to have sex" then you'd get a lot more 'no' answers. well, quite obviously

bhikkhu wrote:    I have a different view now. Although I still don't think marriage is neccessary, I do believe that two people should be absolutely sure that it is the right thing to do. There are many emotions involved, and it is very easy for someone to get hurt. For this reason, I have been celibate for almost four years. I do not wish to cause any harm. That includes myself. When I meet someone, and I am sure it is the right thing to do, this period will be over.

Bob Greece wrote: The Wizard wrote: Yes, I would becuase some men hate using condoms and they don't always carry them. I don't want to force morality on my daughter either, and even If I do that's no garuntee to prevent her from having sex.   It's irresponsible to have sex without condoms. You never know what you might catch or transmit.

    When I was young, and a bit wild, I was very sexually active. I had the talks with my parents, and while they didn't say I had to married, they did encourage me to wait until it was with someone I loved. But, I was young, and was going to do what I wanted to.

Contraception was a huge priority for many reasons. Birth control was at the top of the list, until the advent of AIDS. By practicing "safe sex" no diseases were transferred (at least not to me), and no one got pregnant.

I have a different view now. Although I still don't think marriage is neccessary, I do believe that two people should be absolutely sure that it is the right thing to do. There are many emotions involved, and it is very easy for someone to get hurt. For this reason, I have been celibate for almost four years. I do not wish to cause any harm. That includes myself. When I meet someone, and I am sure it is the right thing to do, this period will be over.

It is almost impossible to make someone adhere to your philosophy, if they really want to go the other direction. For that reason, I think it is irresponsible to deny contraception to a young person. Just because you don't want them to have sex, doesn't mean they aren't going to. It is important to encourage them to at least be safe about it.
     

Majestic_Mayhem wrote: Hey Bob... Long time no see bro!

Hey Bob... Long time no see bro!