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Falling Flower 
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 Posted: June 14 2006 at 12:20 |
I still am one myself ^^
Bur I don't want any and then guy I'm planning on spending my life with doesn't want any either so I don't think I'll ever have little versions of me running around 
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Tool makes the butterflies in my tumybox go woooooooosh
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daz2112
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Posted: June 14 2006 at 13:44 |
Lee 23
Carly 21
God that makes me feel old! 
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In the constellation of cygnus,There lurks a mysterious force...The black hole
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Peter
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Posted: June 14 2006 at 14:01 |
 Falling Flower wrote:
I still am one myself ^^
Bur I don't want any and then guy I'm planning on spending my life with doesn't want any either so I don't think I'll ever have little versions of me running around |
I bet you will, though.
Many of us say we don't ever want marriage or children, when we are young, but:
- kids happen (see "sex" -- I don't think most of us were "planned" by our parents)
- attitudes, tastes & priorities change as we mature
Wait and see -- get back to us in 15 - 20 years, okay?
From my experience, very few of these "highschool sweetheart" marriages/relationships last, or even should last. We are still very much developing as people when we are teens & in our early - mid twenties: we don't really know ourselves, let alone the other person. Your personality is in flux at that age -- people grow apart. (Believe it or not, the activity or friend you thought was "cool" at 15 might well seem boring or idiotic at 30.)
Of course there are always a few exceptions -- some do mature early, but most don't, and some NEVER really mature (and their friends and lovers move on). You say you are still a "child" yourself, so why plan now to spend the "rest of your life" with a specific person? Slow down & find out who you both are as you mature! Date others! (Just don't marry/get pregnant while very young. The almost inevitable divorce/split will really hurt the children, perhaps turn both you and them cynically against the concept of love and marriage, and single parenthood is really tough, and far from ideal, in my opinion and experience. (I teach lots of teens, "twenty somethings" & single moms.)
Hear me now -- believe me later!
Edited by Peter Rideout - June 14 2006 at 14:14
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"And, has thou slain the Jabberwock?
Come to my arms, my beamish boy!
O frabjous day! Callooh! Callay!'
He chortled in his joy.
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man@arms
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Posted: June 14 2006 at 14:17 |
I'm a proud father of fraternal twin girls (age 4).
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Padraic
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Posted: June 14 2006 at 15:41 |
Peter Rideout wrote:
From my experience, very few of these "highschool sweetheart" marriages/relationships last, or even should last. We are still very much developing as people when we are teens & in our early - mid twenties: we don't really know ourselves, let alone the other person. Your personality is in flux at that age -- people grow apart. (Believe it or not, the activity or friend you thought was "cool" at 15 might well seem boring or idiotic at 30.) |
I met my wife when I was 18, and married her when I was 23. Didn't think anything of it at the time, but now that I'm approaching 30 it seems we got married young. But I wouldn't change anything because she's my best friend and I can't imagine life without her, nor can I imagine rearing children with anyone else. She'll be a great mom. 
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Falling Flower
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Posted: June 15 2006 at 03:09 |
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Aw you didn't have to depress me like that 
And if I still remember this site in 15 years I'll get back at you
He's not my "highschool sweetheart", he's my best friend now because my mum wont let me see him, so we only talk on the phone and on msn and we do date other people now, but when we're 18 my mum can't forbid me to see him anymore and we're gonna see if it works out then
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HighProtein
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Posted: June 15 2006 at 11:30 |
Overbreeding is a big issue in the world and no one cares.
There are more than enough kids in the world
but people keep breeding and breeding and breeding.
Unless you can afford it just stop.
No one that breeds deserves 1 cent of incentive from the government
its a conscious choice and its your fault if you can't afford it.
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http://www.raymondwatts.com
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Falling Flower
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Posted: June 15 2006 at 11:34 |
That's a bit harsh 
People would still be having children even ff they wouldn't get money to raise them and then we'd have a whole world of illetaretes because they can't afford to send their children to school.
The rich kids would be the only one with educations and all power will fall in their hands wich leads us to something we had ages ago again.
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TheProgtologist
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Posted: June 15 2006 at 11:57 |
NaturalScience wrote:
Peter Rideout wrote:
From my experience, very few of these "highschool sweetheart" marriages/relationships last, or even should last. We are still very much developing as people when we are teens & in our early - mid twenties: we don't really know ourselves, let alone the other person. Your personality is in flux at that age -- people grow apart. (Believe it or not, the activity or friend you thought was "cool" at 15 might well seem boring or idiotic at 30.) |
I met my wife when I was 18, and married her when I was 23. Didn't think anything of it at the time, but now that I'm approaching 30 it seems we got married young. But I wouldn't change anything because she's my best friend and I can't imagine life without her, nor can I imagine rearing children with anyone else. She'll be a great mom.  |
Don't feel bad NS.I grew up next door to my wife,we have known each other almost since birth,have been together since we were 13 and married at 18.And still madly in love 22 years later,and have never really fought.She is not only my best friend but I truly believe she is my soul mate.
Stereotypical childhood sweethearts.
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Padraic
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Posted: June 15 2006 at 12:08 |
TheProgtologist wrote:
NaturalScience wrote:
Peter Rideout wrote:
From my experience, very few of these "highschool sweetheart" marriages/relationships last, or even should last. We are still very much developing as people when we are teens & in our early - mid twenties: we don't really know ourselves, let alone the other person. Your personality is in flux at that age -- people grow apart. (Believe it or not, the activity or friend you thought was "cool" at 15 might well seem boring or idiotic at 30.) |
I met my wife when I was 18, and married her when I was 23. Didn't think anything of it at the time, but now that I'm approaching 30 it seems we got married young. But I wouldn't change anything because she's my best friend and I can't imagine life without her, nor can I imagine rearing children with anyone else. She'll be a great mom. |
Don't feel bad NS.I grew up next door to my wife,we have known each other almost since birth,have been together since we were 13 and married at 18.And still madly in love 22 years later,and have never really fought.She is not only my best friend but I truly believe she is my soul mate.
Stereotypical childhood sweethearts.
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That's an incredible story, thank you for sharing it. You guys were meant to be together, no question about it. I guess I just wanted to address Peter's comment about age. I agree about maturity at 30 versus 18 or 20 years old, but also wanted to say (at least for us), when it works, it works, no matter what age you are. What was cool was that I was sour on relationships from some prior bad experiences when I met my wife - found my soulmate when I wasn't even looking. 
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Bern
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Posted: June 15 2006 at 12:11 |
^ I have experience and I know that long relationship at a young age may not always be the right thing to do (unless you are really sure about it) 
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RIP in bossa nova heaven.
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Peter
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Posted: June 16 2006 at 09:48 |
As I said, there are always exceptions, but I personally don't know of any happy "high school sweethearts" marriages. I know of many broken/disfunctional ones. 
Any marriage is a challenge, and requires maturity, give and take, and real communication. I believe that the odds are decidedly against these types of marriages ("my first girlfriend became my wife," etc) lasting.
I'm glad to see the exceptions here, but please, young'uns: don't rush into marriage, and don't get pregnant outside of a stable, mature relationship. To quote Chief Dan George:
"The only thing the world really needs is for every child to grow up in happiness."
Edited by Peter Rideout - June 16 2006 at 09:50
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"And, has thou slain the Jabberwock?
Come to my arms, my beamish boy!
O frabjous day! Callooh! Callay!'
He chortled in his joy.
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Padraic
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Posted: June 16 2006 at 12:22 |
Peter Rideout wrote:
As I said, there are always exceptions. |
I think we agree here. I just got lucky.
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markosherrera
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Posted: October 15 2006 at 03:08 |
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ONE OF 9 YEARS.
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tardis
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Posted: October 15 2006 at 03:11 |
No children (that I'm aware of... )
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Padraic
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Posted: October 16 2006 at 11:27 |
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Update: yes, a (now) 3 month old boy, who unfortunately has a cold and is cranky.
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Peter
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Posted: October 16 2006 at 14:08 |
 A daughter and a son, ages 13 and (almost) 10, respectively.
Edited by Peter Rideout - October 16 2006 at 14:09
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"And, has thou slain the Jabberwock?
Come to my arms, my beamish boy!
O frabjous day! Callooh! Callay!'
He chortled in his joy.
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Tony R
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Posted: October 16 2006 at 14:13 |
A daughter, 15 yrs old.
I think my wife must've been consorting with The Devil all those years ago.... (  )
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Jared
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Posted: October 16 2006 at 14:15 |
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nope, 38 and have been single for over 10 years, no kids...
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Jared
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Posted: October 16 2006 at 14:16 |
Tony R wrote:
A daughter, 15 yrs old.
I think my wife must've been consorting with The Devil all those years ago.... () |
don't be silly; the Devil doesn't live in Bolton....
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