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Blacksword 
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 Topic: Do you let people push you around?
Posted: December 20 2006 at 07:13 |
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I was pushed around in my teens. I always wanted a quiet life, and I lacked confidence. I think once I had 'grown up' I found that confidence that literally everyone else seemed to have from the age of 13. So, no. I dont really get pushed around these days, but sometimes I dont know when to shut up. I speak my mind and upset people with meaning to.
I've never really been involved in a fight. I'm only a shortarse, but apparently I look like a dangerous criminal. That probably accounts for why most women run a mile from me too.
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Zepology101
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Posted: December 19 2006 at 20:47 |
Depends. If its me whos getting beat up or something, I barely have a reaction or aybe even laugh through it.
But I really get mad if someone beats up my friend
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chamberry
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Posted: December 18 2006 at 13:42 |
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No. I'm a very peaceful person and I'm always cool with everyone so there's no hate going on.
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Peter
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Posted: December 18 2006 at 10:12 |
No -- but it's much easier to resist getting pushed around when you're a grown man. Life gets much less confrontational after high school.
Physical threats RARELY happen in adulthood (plus I'm 6' 3", and over 200 lbs), but when people are deliberately rude to me, or try to take advantage, I speak up in no uncertain terms.
BTW, I like the way you empathize with your teacher, Stoney.  Trying to teach unmotivated, ill-mannered young louts is a very tough job!
Edited by Peter Rideout - December 18 2006 at 10:18
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Australian
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Posted: December 18 2006 at 02:50 |
I’ve never gotten into a fight for two reasons. I hate to sound arrogant but I’m very respected in school and around my local community. Second reason being I’m already a 200lb muscled-up guy.
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video vertigo
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Posted: December 18 2006 at 01:35 |
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usually, but when I'm pushed hard enough I push back.
A couple months ago a guy who was about 150 pounds heavier and a good 5 inches taller pissed me off, and I got right in his face and told him to f*ck off.
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Sasquamo
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Posted: December 17 2006 at 22:45 |
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I treat my insecurities by having a tough avatar.
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Chus
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Posted: December 17 2006 at 22:39 |
 Sasquamo wrote:
Bj-1 wrote:
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People rarely push me around, most likely because of my size (6'4 and 220lbs)  , but the ones who still do definitely gets a taste of their own medicine in the end Though it also depend on the situation sometimes. |
I'm not pushed around too much. I am 6 feet 4 inches (a bit under 2 meters) as well, and that's a fairly intimidating size I suppose, but I only weigh a scrawny 175 pounds, so I guess I'm not really big enough to be truly scary. I usually never get bothered, but I don't think anyone is actually scared of me either, because I'm pretty passive and never get physical. |
Hey Sasquamo, you look a lot bigger on that avatar
  and scawy too
Edited by Chus - December 17 2006 at 22:40
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Jimbo
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Posted: December 17 2006 at 19:21 |
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Hmm, I'm such a peaceful guy that I very rarely get into these sort of situations where defending yourself (verbally or otherwise) becomes a necessity. I get along with most people quite easily.
Some accidents have happened in the past, mostly due to someone (not me) being drunk, and behaving irrationally for that reason. I've talked myself out of these situations (without resorting to any kind of violence).
In general, I do not push people around, and they treat me with that same respect.
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Posted: December 17 2006 at 10:17 |
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I have never let people push me around.I am almost 6'4",and in my prime I was a muscular 230 lbs.I have always been quick to fight,no matter what the size or the numbers of opponents are,and had a reputation for that from an early age,so people didn't mess with me much.Not to say I didn't get my ass whipped on occasion,because I did.I took on five guys in my high school parking lot and fought like a wild man but they beat the absolute piss out of me,simple as that.I pee'd blood for 2 weeks,was one big cut and bruise from head to toe,could barely get out of bed for awhile,had broken ribs and a broken nose.I spent the next year getting each of the five guys that beat me up at a time when they were totally alone and pounded the hell out of them.That was when I was 17 and no one ever tried anything with me from then on,and the only fighting I did after that was when I was in the service.
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progismylife
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Posted: December 17 2006 at 10:14 |
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My brother has an interesting way of intimidating people. He slouches a lot and when some one bugs him he stands up straight and he is big so it is scary.
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Trickster F.
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Posted: December 17 2006 at 10:10 |
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Eh, people don't bother me. I don't like a potential "easy victim", I guess.
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progismylife
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Posted: December 17 2006 at 10:08 |
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I don't usually get pushed around. I am 5'11" and 185 pounds, but I look big and have a bigger older brother, and people usually don't do anything to me. But if they did I would have no trouble telling them to f**k off.
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Philéas
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Posted: December 17 2006 at 10:05 |
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No, but if the guy is 200 lbs of muscle heavier, maybe....
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Posted: December 17 2006 at 02:20 |
Generally a problem isn't created. However, I can usually stand up for myself if the situation calls for it.
I used to be more reserved, but I guess apathy has its postive side effects as well.
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JJLehto
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Posted: December 17 2006 at 01:44 |
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Nah, I'm a pretty small guy though (5'8" 165 lbs) but I tend to be very calming and usually people just kind of subdue...
regardless, usually I am not pushed around
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JayDee
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Posted: December 17 2006 at 01:07 |
I get pushed around sometimes.
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Posted: December 16 2006 at 22:24 |
Sasquamo wrote:
Bj-1 wrote:
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People rarely push me around, most likely because of my size (6'4 and 220lbs)  , but the ones who still do definitely gets a taste of their own medicine in the end  Though it also depend on the situation sometimes. |
I'm not pushed around too much. I am 6 feet 4 inches (a bit under 2 meters) as well, and that's a fairly intimidating size I suppose, but I only weigh a scrawny 175 pounds, so I guess I'm not really big enough to be truly scary. I usually never get bothered, but I don't think anyone is actually scared of me either, because I'm pretty passive and never get physical.
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I don't think people are scared of me either, unless I get mad of course. Im a pretty nice guy really 
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Sasquamo
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Posted: December 16 2006 at 22:18 |
Atavachron wrote:
Having taught martial arts for over twelve years, this is an area of interest to me, both psychologically and physically, and it is always a challenge (even with training) to know the best reaction. My policy is this: I am as patient and courteous as I can be in the face of some ignoramous who thinks they know what they're talking about, and I give the individual at least two chances to stop. By the third or fourth time, I tend to let them know the situation; I will not be f***ed with, especially for a bad reason. But each encounter is different, so play it by ear and remember that if you later need the support of others, to try to be the 'good guy', the 'one in the right', and that way any anger on your part will be understood. Physical action should always be your *last* line of defense, not your first. Good luck. |
Or you could skip all of those steps and just show them your black belt..
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Sasquamo
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Posted: December 16 2006 at 22:15 |
Bj-1 wrote:
No.
People rarely push me around, most likely because of my size (6'4 and 220lbs) , but the ones who still do definitely gets a taste of their own medicine in the end Though it also depend on the situation sometimes. |
I'm not pushed around too much. I am 6 feet 4 inches (a bit under 2 meters) as well, and that's a fairly intimidating size I suppose, but I only weigh a scrawny 175 pounds, so I guess I'm not really big enough to be truly scary. I usually never get bothered, but I don't think anyone is actually scared of me either, because I'm pretty passive and never get physical.
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