Do you let people push you around?
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Topic: Do you let people push you around?
Posted By: stonebeard
Subject: Do you let people push you around?
Date Posted: December 16 2006 at 21:28
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Just asking because I, for a long while, was fairly soft-spoken and did not want to cause trouble. I still don't want to cause trouble, but if someone if constantly pestering me, I have little qualm about telling them to go  ), I am often put in the position of being incredibly pissed off at underclassmen who, for lack of a better phrase, don't know their place. I am taking a low-level science class because I suck at math and its easy, but that also meansa lot of immature, underachieving, annoying, disrespectful, nihilist (scholasically) underclassmen congregate to the class. They give the teacher the hardest time, and I can see the disrespect taking its toll. Now, this bitch of a lab parter of mine is always pestering me, and I, even though I am a horrible scientist, always find myself doing all the work. I swear, if she crosses the line once more, I'm not above using a colorful vocabulary to take her ego down to that of an infant.
Now, physical violence is not my area of expertise, especially not against women and especially not in school, but I imagine some other folks well out of the constraints of school have felt like or perhaps even have inflicted damage on another because they pushed you too far.
So, do you let people walk over you, or do you resist? ------------- http://soundcloud.com/drewagler" rel="nofollow - My soundcloud. Please give feedback if you want! |
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Posted By: Cygnus X-2
Date Posted: December 16 2006 at 21:31
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It really depends on the situation. Usually, I'm a pretty rational person and I can let things go, but if someone really gets on my nerves then I let them know by means of, as you put it. "colorful language". And for the most part, I'm not really pushed around because no one seems to have a problem with me or any reason to be out of line with me. ------------- 
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Posted By: Bj-1
Date Posted: December 16 2006 at 21:31
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No.
People rarely push me around, most likely because of my size (6'4 and 220lbs)  , but the ones who still do definitely gets a taste of their own medicine in the end Though it also depend on the situation sometimes.------------- RIO/AVANT/ZEUHL - The best thing you can get with yer pants on! |
Posted By: Mikerinos
Date Posted: December 16 2006 at 21:33
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Sometimes... but it really depends on the situation. I really can't think of that many recent examples where I have been pushed around. A lot of the managers at work treat the lower employees like sh*t, but I never let it get to me - I am above them. And in school... uhh, I really don't remember the last time I was pushed around.
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Posted By: Atavachron
Date Posted: December 16 2006 at 21:38
| Having taught martial arts for over twelve years, this is an area of interest to me, both psychologically and physically, and it is always a challenge (even with training) to know the best reaction. My policy is this: I am as patient and courteous as I can be in the face of some ignoramous who thinks they know what they're talking about, and I give the individual at least two chances to stop. By the third or fourth time, I tend to let them know the situation; I will not be f***ed with, especially for a bad reason. But each encounter is different, so play it by ear and remember that if you later need the support of others, to try to be the 'good guy', the 'one in the right', and that way any anger on your part will be understood. Physical action should always be your *last* line of defense, not your first. Good luck. |
Posted By: Arrrghus
Date Posted: December 16 2006 at 21:39
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I hate getting pushed around. I tend to blow up when someone tries to (I get that from my dad). ------------- 
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Posted By: The Miracle
Date Posted: December 16 2006 at 21:46
No, at least I try. I don't do violence, I'm much better at telling dipsh*ts to go  themselves. But I don't get pushed around much anyway... I'm a senior too most of my classes are junior/senior classes without annoying underclassmen.------------- http://www.last.fm/user/ocellatedgod" rel="nofollow - last.fm |
Posted By: The Wizard
Date Posted: December 16 2006 at 21:51
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f**k no -------------  
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Posted By: Sasquamo
Date Posted: December 16 2006 at 22:15
I'm not pushed around too much. I am 6 feet 4 inches (a bit under 2 meters) as well, and that's a fairly intimidating size I suppose, but I only weigh a scrawny 175 pounds, so I guess I'm not really big enough to be truly scary. I usually never get bothered, but I don't think anyone is actually scared of me either, because I'm pretty passive and never get physical. |
Bj-1 wrote:Posted By: Sasquamo
Date Posted: December 16 2006 at 22:18
Or you could skip all of those steps and just show them your black belt..  |
Posted By: Bj-1
Date Posted: December 16 2006 at 22:24
I don't think people are scared of me either, unless I get mad of course. Im a pretty nice guy really  ------------- RIO/AVANT/ZEUHL - The best thing you can get with yer pants on! |
Posted By: JayDee
Date Posted: December 17 2006 at 01:07
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I get pushed around sometimes.
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Posted By: JJLehto
Date Posted: December 17 2006 at 01:44
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Nah, I'm a pretty small guy though (5'8" 165 lbs) but I tend to be very calming and usually people just kind of subdue... regardless, usually I am not pushed around |
Posted By: Man With Hat
Date Posted: December 17 2006 at 02:20
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Generally a problem isn't created. However, I can usually stand up for myself if the situation calls for it.
I used to be more reserved, but I guess apathy has its postive side effects as well. ------------- Dig me...But don't...Bury me I'm running still, I shall until, one day, I hope that I'll arrive Warning: Listening to jazz excessively can cause a laxative effect. |
Posted By: Philéas
Date Posted: December 17 2006 at 10:05
| No, but if the guy is 200 lbs of muscle heavier, maybe.... |
Posted By: progismylife
Date Posted: December 17 2006 at 10:08
| I don't usually get pushed around. I am 5'11" and 185 pounds, but I look big and have a bigger older brother, and people usually don't do anything to me. But if they did I would have no trouble telling them to f**k off. |
Posted By: Trickster F.
Date Posted: December 17 2006 at 10:10
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Eh, people don't bother me. I don't like a potential "easy victim", I guess. ------------- sig |
Posted By: progismylife
Date Posted: December 17 2006 at 10:14
| My brother has an interesting way of intimidating people. He slouches a lot and when some one bugs him he stands up straight and he is big so it is scary. |
Posted By: TheProgtologist
Date Posted: December 17 2006 at 10:17
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I have never let people push me around.I am almost 6'4",and in my prime I was a muscular 230 lbs.I have always been quick to fight,no matter what the size or the numbers of opponents are,and had a reputation for that from an early age,so people didn't mess with me much.Not to say I didn't get my ass whipped on occasion,because I did.I took on five guys in my high school parking lot and fought like a wild man but they beat the absolute piss out of me,simple as that.I pee'd blood for 2 weeks,was one big cut and bruise from head to toe,could barely get out of bed for awhile,had broken ribs and a broken nose.I spent the next year getting each of the five guys that beat me up at a time when they were totally alone and pounded the hell out of them.That was when I was 17 and no one ever tried anything with me from then on,and the only fighting I did after that was when I was in the service. -------------  |
Posted By: Jimbo
Date Posted: December 17 2006 at 19:21
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Hmm, I'm such a peaceful guy that I very rarely get into these sort of situations where defending yourself (verbally or otherwise) becomes a necessity. I get along with most people quite easily. Some accidents have happened in the past, mostly due to someone (not me) being drunk, and behaving irrationally for that reason. I've talked myself out of these situations (without resorting to any kind of violence). In general, I do not push people around, and they treat me with that same respect. ------------- 
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Posted By: Chus
Date Posted: December 17 2006 at 22:39
Hey Sasquamo, you look a lot bigger on that avatar  and scawy too
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Posted By: Sasquamo
Date Posted: December 17 2006 at 22:45
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Posted By: video vertigo
Date Posted: December 18 2006 at 01:35
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usually, but when I'm pushed hard enough I push back.
A couple months ago a guy who was about 150 pounds heavier and a good 5 inches taller pissed me off, and I got right in his face and told him to f*ck off. ------------- "The rock and roll business is pretty absurd, but the world of serious music is much worse." - Zappa |
Posted By: Australian
Date Posted: December 18 2006 at 02:50
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I’ve never gotten into a fight for two reasons. I hate to sound arrogant but I’m very respected in school and around my local community. Second reason being I’m already a 200lb muscled-up guy. ------------- 
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Posted By: Peter
Date Posted: December 18 2006 at 10:12
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No -- but it's much easier to resist getting pushed around when you're a grown man. Life gets much less confrontational after high school.
Physical threats RARELY happen in adulthood (plus I'm 6' 3", and over 200 lbs), but when people are deliberately rude to me, or try to take advantage, I speak up in no uncertain terms.
BTW, I like the way you empathize with your teacher, Stoney.  Trying to teach unmotivated, ill-mannered young louts is a very tough job!------------- "And, has thou slain the Jabberwock? Come to my arms, my beamish boy! O frabjous day! Callooh! Callay!' He chortled in his joy. |
Posted By: chamberry
Date Posted: December 18 2006 at 13:42
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No. I'm a very peaceful person and I'm always cool with everyone so there's no hate going on.
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Posted By: Zepology101
Date Posted: December 19 2006 at 20:47
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Depends. If its me whos getting beat up or something, I barely have a reaction or aybe even laugh through it.
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Posted By: Blacksword
Date Posted: December 20 2006 at 07:13
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I was pushed around in my teens. I always wanted a quiet life, and I lacked confidence. I think once I had 'grown up' I found that confidence that literally everyone else seemed to have from the age of 13. So, no. I dont really get pushed around these days, but sometimes I dont know when to shut up. I speak my mind and upset people with meaning to.
I've never really been involved in a fight. I'm only a shortarse, but apparently I look like a dangerous criminal. That probably accounts for why most women run a mile from me too. ------------- Ultimately bored by endless ecstasy! |