Help with a girl...

Jus lten to her, and ask her about her feelings and call her everyday to talk about nothing, for a weird reason it works

oliverstoned wrote: At least things are clear now. Now you can re-use all the good advices you received here for another girl.

Wasn't it the same girl?

Arrrghus wrote: Cygnus X-2 wrote: Bluesaga wrote: Arrrghus wrote: Well, guys, it doesn't matter. We talked for a bit, and she told me it won't work out. Oh well. It's not a big deal. Were you in rock out mode when you were talking to her? Obviously not. If he were, she would have accepted out of fear... You guys are so f**king insensitive.

Your response here only confirms the suspicion... did you have a lapse of judgment before you talked to her?

Bluesaga wrote: Arrrghus wrote: Well, guys, it doesn't matter. We talked for a bit, and she told me it won't work out. Oh well. It's not a big deal. Were you in rock out mode when you were talking to her?

Obviously not. If he were, she would have accepted out of fear...

The Wizard wrote: Just ask her to a movie.

Hehe, i have just have a dejavu

Well, guys, it doesn't matter. We talked for a bit, and she told me it won't work out. Oh well. It's not a big deal.

First of all, she may not know that you like her still.  Simply saying "you look beautiful tonight" is not the same as saying that you think she is an attractive person and you want to spend more time with her.

andu wrote: Wish me luck with this girl, guys. I'll need it...Tomorrow I'm leaving with her for Budapest, to have a three days trip and see the Van Gogh exhibition. Though she formally still is my girlfriend, during the last year she has strongly grown apart from me, for reasons unknown. For example, I got to see her just once in the last ten months; this is why this trip plan she unexpectedly accepted (because she wanted to see the exhibition but she had no other choice but my offer, nobody else wanted to go) it's a great chance for me to try to fix things. If the minimal context requirements will be fulfilled, I'll ask her to marry me. I know, the chances are by now very little, but 1. who knows? 2. I'm already desperate anyway, I can't just let my life slip through my fingers. I know I may well lose her in the time to come, and my life would become senseless, but at least I'd have the peace of mind for having acted as a man about the situation....so thanks for listening and see you  in three days' time.

Good luck to you. That's what being brave is all about. But... ¿why don't you try to understand the reasons for the distance between you both?. I mean, if I were you, I would like to know a bit about the subject. Anyway, I wish you a happy finale. Use your time wisely.

andu wrote: Wish me luck with this girl, guys. I'll need it...Tomorrow I'm leaving with her for Budapest, to have a three days trip and see the Van Gogh exhibition. Though she formally still is my girlfriend, during the last year she has strongly grown apart from me, for reasons unknown. For example, I got to see her just once in the last ten months; this is why this trip plan she unexpectedly accepted (because she wanted to see the exhibition but she had no other choice but my offer, nobody else wanted to go) it's a great chance for me to try to fix things. If the minimal context requirements will be fulfilled, I'll ask her to marry me. I know, the chances are by now very little, but 1. who knows? 2. I'm already desperate anyway, I can't just let my life slip through my fingers. I know I may well lose her in the time to come, and my life would become senseless, but at least I'd have the peace of mind for having acted as a man about the situation....so thanks for listening and see you  in three days' time.

You know, you could impress her by doing it the Van Gogh way. Just instead of giving her the ring, give her your ear. It would fit the picture perfectly. Even better, do it before one of the paintings. Cut the ear so, that there's a fingersized hole in the middle of it, and that should still leave a lot of space to carve her name into. That'd be SO romantic!

Wish me luck with this girl, guys. I'll need it...

Tomorrow I'm leaving with her for Budapest, to have a three days trip and see the Van Gogh exhibition. Though she formally still is my girlfriend, during the last year she has strongly grown apart from me, for reasons unknown. For example, I got to see her just once in the last ten months; this is why this trip plan she unexpectedly accepted (because she wanted to see the exhibition but she had no other choice but my offer, nobody else wanted to go) it's a great chance for me to try to fix things. If the minimal context requirements will be fulfilled, I'll ask her to marry me. I know, the chances are by now very little, but 1. who knows? 2. I'm already desperate anyway, I can't just let my life slip through my fingers. I know I may well lose her in the time to come, and my life would become senseless, but at least I'd have the peace of mind for having acted as a man about the situation.

...so thanks for listening and see you  in three days' time.


Edited by andu - March 14 2007 at 17:36