Your Life Not Related to Music

I'm pretty happy right now. The only thing that's making me sad is the fact that I haven't had very much time to be on PA recently...

Trickster F. wrote: I guess I'll have to join in the depressed people. I haven't been happy for good 6 years now. I always remind myself that there are people out there with problems more much complicated than mine and that I simply can not enjoy life, but that makes me sink deeper in my depression. Never took any pills though or seen a specialist, and don't plan to.   I know that people have two treatments for this, friends and music; well, I've got a few of the former, which doesn't entertain me and doesn't make me feel much better, and the latter matches my mood, fears and misanthropy as close as possible.

I understand where you are coming from. I used to find absolutely no joy in life. Because of this, I consumed large amounts of intoxicants. Alcohol being the main focus. I tried counseling, but they seemed to be at a loss to find the real problem. Medications were suggested, but I saw that as a substitute for what I was already doing. I knew there was a greater problem that had to be addressed. What was this conflict that kept me from enjoying life? When I was finally able to confront this issue, everything changed. Let me tell you, it runs much deeper than things like having a rough childhood. It is in an overall view of things.
    

AtLossForWords wrote: I'd have to say there were two things that turned my life around over the past couple years that have made me a happier person.1) I'm no longer an alcoholic2) I know who I am now rather than trying to be what others thought I should be.3) I've taken on responsibility and have been given more freedom in return.All three are very good ways to lead a happier life.

Right on Vince. You have surely found the key. Taking responsibility is a big one. Especially realizing that you are responsible for your own misery, and happiness. Realizing this is finding the door to freedom.


I would also like to endorse Ghost Rider (Raffaella) as a very good person to talk to. She is very intelligent, and compassionate. I also volunteer my ear (or in this case, eyes ) to anyone who wants to talk. I have been to the abyss of absolute hopelessness, and come out the other side. It would be my pleasure to help someone else who is heading in the same direction.

the usual stuff during week days. Europeans might have an easer time to understand the brand names.

Lattoflex , Phillips

Scottex , Colgate , Gilette , Axe

Kellogs , Fruitvita, Illy

Renault, Dell , Nokia , Siemens, Nokia , Siemens , Nokia , Black & Decker , Nokia

McDonald's , Coca-Cola , Lipton

Dell, Siemens , Nokia , Hewlett-Packard , Illy , Nokia , Nokia

Renault, Lays , Jupiler (best Belgian brew) , Sony Trinitron , Whirlpool

Jupiler , Pizza-Hut , Jupiler , Jupiler , Jupiler , Nokia , Chivas Regal , Jupiler , Jupiler

Aspirin , Durex, Scottex, Durex, Durex , Colgate , Lattoflex

 

 

 

 

WE are usually much less routine (more Durex and less Colgate)

Edited by Sean Trane - August 30 2006 at 11:31

Talking about sad people here... I have been quite sad this whole year but it's getting better...

Edited by aapatsos - August 30 2006 at 10:41

I guess I'll have to join in the depressed people. I haven't been happy for good 6 years now. I always remind myself that there are people out there with problems more much complicated than mine and that I simply can not enjoy life, but that makes me sink deeper in my depression. Never took any pills though or seen a specialist, and don't plan to.

I agree with Cuncuna, Bhikku, Tlossy and Ghost Rider here.  I have been exactly where you have been now, Stonie, but one thing I refused to do, was to go to the doctors or take any form of anti-depressant.  I felt that a) I had a strong enough character and belief in myself to get through it and b) I felt it somewhat of a defeatists attitude to get help (I did get help of sorts, but that was chatting to people about it; it helps!).  I was correct with my observations as well and I am now very rarely depressed.  I get a little sad from time-to-time, but it takes very little to cheer me back up again.

Music helps a lot, but also if you have a few friends who tell jokes, or are just good to speak to, because they're always happy, then speak to them!  Don't dish out your troubles and woes to them, but just talk about inane stuff and try not to get too deep.  They'll soon make you feel better.

However, the one major thing that sorted me out, was realising that what I was actually worrying about was rather trivial compared to so many millions of other people.  Why should I worry about such issues, when someone else is going through a lot worse?

Besides, the reasons for depression and sadness are not really measurable anyhow; what makes you depressed may not make someone else depressed.

As Mike says, it's just a phase and a very important one in life.  I think everyone needs to go through depression in one way or other, to enable to them to live a fruitful life.

Sadness and depression are there for a purpose, so use it to your advantage; I did.  Try and write lyrics, write music, play guitar, or paint.  Whatever you feel comfortable with.  Yes your efforts may appear dark and brooding, but I bet they we will be some of your best work.

Think about it.

You'll get through this if you have a strong mind and a will to get through it.  Your friends are very important.

Good luck!


Edited by Geck0 - August 30 2006 at 06:52

I've been meaning to get one of those...

I have never been depressed and proud of it

On the other hand, I'm always depressed but it's on a healthy level. My condition for the last couple years is more accurately described as extreme pessimism than depression.


Edited by The Miracle - August 30 2006 at 00:41

AtLossForWords wrote: The Miracle wrote: To be happy, live by this quote of Maynard's: "Embrace this moment, remember - we are eternal, all this pain is an illusion" don't push it buddy

No one's pushing it... that's so true you know... and the best song on Lateralus after The Grudge too


Cya Stonie! Don't let the BS get to you.

The Miracle wrote: To be happy, live by this quote of Maynard's: "Embrace this moment, remember - we are eternal, all this pain is an illusion"

don't push it buddy