Love Advice?

I wonder if anyone's beloveds and/or ex's are intently perusing this thread...

Wiktor Hatif wrote: You wrote in other thread (not you WalterDig, and by the way I'm your friend at last.fm :P) that you're 17, as I remember correctly. Well, nothing is serious at that age, trust me :)

Slartibartfast wrote: .  And I am a firm believer in the power of masturbation to make you feel a little better.

Yes.....nothing wrong with a little masturbation!...It's sex with someone I love. (Woody Allen)

micky wrote: JLocke wrote: I would disagree with Micky on one point: There is no guarantee that 'THE one' is out there for you at all. In fact, I don't even believe in the concept of 'THE one'. Not everybody finds their happy ending in life. That's a very cold fact, but one I would advise you to become aware of. For your own sanity's sake.  obviously there are no guarantees in life... here today...gone tomorrow. see my POV is... and I do think it is a good one...  if you aren't living for something.. have hope in something greater than yourself.. then what the hell are we living for. Money? success?  Find me one person who has been made happy by either... very often they are used as substitutes for what really makes you happy, Love, and are often the most miserable people you'll ever meet.  I dig you man... but Conor..  listen closely.  There is someone for everyone... unfortunately the world has taken on a mighty case of cynic crotch rot.  Those who don't think THE one exists... simply aren't looking or have convinced themselves that a man and a women can not be a perfect match.  That isn't saying moonlight and roses 24/7.. but a relationship where you are much  friends as well as lovers and understand that  neither is perfect and never forget what made you fall in love in the first place. so what is so impossible to believe about finding that person in your life... bah..

You misunderstand me, Micky. When I say 'The one' doesn't exist, I mean the popular, business-pushed depiction of 'the one'. Of course there is potentially somebody out there, but it most likely won't be the 100% match that movies and commercials depict. Some kids grow up expecting their relationships to have that sappy, 'magical' stuff, complete with a soundtrack full of pop tunes and spot-on production values. Should I not warn against being taken in by such a con?

And I'm sorry, but no, there isn't someone out there for everyone. There are more women in this world than men, so the heterosexual world is greatly unbalanced. Additionally, it is quite possible for someone to love multiple people equally as much in her lifetime. But how many of those love interests feel the same in return? The romantic and sexual attraction between two individuals are not very consistent.

I'm not a grim person. I'm just realistic. And it's best that I face the real world of love as soon as I can so that I won't be tormented by loneliness and despair later in life.

However, I do not disbelieve in real, tangible love. In my case, there is only one person of the female persuasion I can honestly say I have 'loved' thus far. Just the same, I have no doubt that real love is what my feelings for her are made of. I don't know if we will remain together forever or not. Hell, we're not even technically a couple right now. It doesn't make me love her any less. In fact, I feel I'll always love her. And the likelihood of running into another girl I love just as much in the future is quite slim. However, I know it is still possible. If anything, throwing out the concept of a 'one true love' is a very uplifting, liberating thing to do. By doing this, you can recognize that if your current love fizzles, there is still a chance that an equally powerful romance is in your future. It's not always likely, but very possible nonetheless. 

But to say that there is absolutely someone out there for everyone is a bit of a cheat, in my opinion. Of course there is potentially someone out there for all, but how likely is it really that the paths of both parties will cross? So I like to put it in a different way: There is always the potential of finding true love, but no guarantee. Circumstance and luck play large roles in whether or not you can find someone you're completely crazy about. 

You want my real love advice? Here it is: Have you ever cared about someone with all your heart, but had no logical idea why? Have you ever loved a person who is very different from yourself in belief system, personal taste, culture, attitude, etc.? Well, that's how I would define true, unconditional love; when you can't even explain yourself why this person stays on your mind all the time. I'm not saying that's the only way it can be recognized, but it certainly makes sense to me. To me, real love is when you adore a person for no other reason than just that. You adore them. Nothing else matters.

I hope I have cleared some things up. 

paganinio wrote: I'll recommend you three songs. 1. I Don't Believe in Love by Queensryche. You'll feel better about yourself, because that guy was REALLY hurt by the death of his love. 2. The Spirit Carries On by Dream Theater your girlfriend says to you, Move on, be brave Don't weep at my grave Because I`m no longer here 3. Comfortably Numb by Pink Floyd.

Amalia Daoussis wrote: Yes someone's ex is reading this post.

Hi. 

Amalia Daoussis wrote: Yes someone's ex is reading this post.

Amalia Daoussis wrote: Yes someone's ex is reading this post.

AHAHAHAHA Rob.

You did tell me to get a prog archives account did you not???