This might be weird, or pointless. Whatever.

 

Everyone commits transgressions against each other. Who do you find it the hardest to forgive? Do you forgive family and friends easily because they are close to you, or does your anger only fester because you have to see them? Do you forgive strangers easily because you hardly know them or did that guy that accidentally made you drop your iPod into a puddle get stalked and attacked later? Do you let your anger fester deep inside you and direct all your hatred towards yourself, or do you love yourself too much to get angry about mistakes you make?

 

How do you make friends then? Hating someone that you know nothing about right from the get go could make them start to hate you.

 

I vote for myself, even though I find it hard to forgive some things other people have done, mainly family members.

 

in my experiance, people are very rude and mean, MUCH more often than not. My natural hate for strangers has grown out of that.

 

And, how do I make friends? I don't

 

But I'd vote for acquaintainces (work mates that aren't on "friendly" terms for example.. or  " friends" of friends...

 

Well not forgiving is rather a rare thing in my vocabulary... but the ensuing un-trust will probably last a lifetime

Forgiving family is more difficult because of the inherent loyalty you suppose they owe you. The same, to a lesser degree, with friends. But, again, bonds are stronger than blame. 

Forgiving strangers, on the other hand, might be impossible. There is no force moving you to forgive someone you don't give a damn about. Therefore, I choose this.  

 

The cheeses are very important to me. They are like my teddy bears, security blankets, mouse pads, old folks home, and those things that kill toe fungus all wrapped up in a glorious whole.

 

 

Guilt and shame are powerful creatures.

 

 

I am completely not normal and you're in the same boat as me on this subject.

 

You should hang out in the shred. We are well versed in these ways.

 

However, based on these results since "we" can forgive family, friends and strangers, then they in turn would have no problem in forgiving "you", ergo, forgiveness is there for the taking once "you" can accept the guilt and shame as being part of the remorse.

I think I agree with that.. What does it mean not to be able to forgive yourself? Does it mean that you did something you would never do again, and you can't forgive your "old" self which is now a part of history? Or is it something negative that is still a part of you, and by accepting that you can't change for the better, you think you are a bad person, and essentially the ideal "you" is not in control over yourself, therefore the lack of forgiveness.

 

When you think that you can't forgive yourself, it's just a way to judge yourself over something which you feel deep regret about. It's like thinking "what's done is done", and the harsh way of thinking is that "there is no excuse", therefore it can't even be forgiven.

 

But regret and denial of self-forgiveness is not the same thing. I think that in order not to forgive yourself you have to abandon yourself. It's like the bond between the person who makes all the choices and acts, and the person with ideals who judges the action will be broken, and then you are essentially dead, maybe?

 

Self-forgiveness , does it really exist? I doubt it.

 

And the other alternatives, it all comes down to events, actions and intents, it's not so much determined by who it is. 

 

Another interesting question is what requirements do you think need to be fulfilled in order for you to forgive someone.