Men and women: "Just friends?"
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Topic: Men and women: "Just friends?"
Posted By: stonebeard
Subject: Men and women: "Just friends?"
Date Posted: December 08 2009 at 22:09
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Posted By: KoS
Date Posted: December 08 2009 at 22:11
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Well if God/evolution wanted us to be just friends, we wouldn't be attracted to each other, now would we? |
Posted By: horsewithteeth11
Date Posted: December 08 2009 at 22:19
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KoS wrote:Posted By: Atavachron
Date Posted: December 08 2009 at 22:19
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Sure, but a little friendly flirting never hurt either.
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Posted By: Trademark
Date Posted: December 08 2009 at 22:28
| Trying to figure out how to work a Richard Dawkins video into this thread |
Posted By: stonebeard
Date Posted: December 08 2009 at 22:30
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Posted By: Trademark
Date Posted: December 08 2009 at 22:32
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Sorry Stony, i did vote in the poll |
Posted By: progkidjoel
Date Posted: December 08 2009 at 23:19
Its been done before.
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Posted By: Any Colour You Like
Date Posted: December 08 2009 at 23:20
Yeah, I have a few female 'friends', although I'd go there with some of them if they weren't already 'friends' or taken.  |
Posted By: stonebeard
Date Posted: December 08 2009 at 23:21
^ Obviously not "just" then. 
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Posted By: Any Colour You Like
Date Posted: December 08 2009 at 23:22
Yeah, but I have manners... And, I'm not attracted to all of them - it's just a natural thing. |
Posted By: Dean
Date Posted: December 09 2009 at 02:33
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I would say Not a chance in hell but the concept of hell is a construct of the human mind and not a physical place so any probabilities relating to such a location are somewhat difficult to compute, for all I know the actually chance of friends being just friends in hades would be pretty high considering the torment involve in being close to someone of the opposite sex without any intimacy could be considerable, while in opposite human construct of heaven two friends of the opposite gender could be banging like bunnies with regular frequency.
However in my experience I have to say "no" - unless both are gay of course. ------------- What? |
Posted By: ExittheLemming
Date Posted: December 09 2009 at 02:45
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There is only one condition to being just friends with a woman - you can't fancy them (even remotely) I'm not talking about some drop dead gorgeous stunner here, I mean after a few drinks, a few laughs, a few coffees and a few exercise videos, if they are even borderline physically attractive to you, it will end up in intimacy (either spurned or reciprocated) if given sufficient time. For my best buddy to have breasts, they would have to point to the ground and require a milking stool. ------------- 
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Posted By: Rivertree
Date Posted: December 09 2009 at 02:46
 looks like you're wounded - I'm for 'anythingofthatnature' by the way however - as for the initial question - I would say both of course ... and this makes it complicated really ... ------------- https://awesomeprog.com/users/Rivertree" rel="nofollow">  |
Posted By: Dean
Date Posted: December 09 2009 at 03:19
 ------------- What? |
Posted By: ExittheLemming
Date Posted: December 09 2009 at 03:35
Lordy yes, just read that back (For the sake of clarity) I don't have a granny lactation fetish. -------------
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Posted By: heyitsthatguy
Date Posted: December 09 2009 at 03:39
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It's possible it's just never happened to me ------------- 
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Posted By: someone_else
Date Posted: December 09 2009 at 04:26
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Why not? There are a few women that I could call "just friends". ------------- 
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Posted By: Vompatti
Date Posted: December 09 2009 at 04:43
Do you mean metaphysical or logical possibility? 
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Posted By: Pekka
Date Posted: December 09 2009 at 06:14
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My class is full of women, I'd like to think we're all just friends. ------------- http://www.progarchives.com/album.asp?id=42652" rel="nofollow - It's on PA! 
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Posted By: Dean
Date Posted: December 09 2009 at 06:20
------------- What? |
Posted By: Jim Garten
Date Posted: December 09 2009 at 06:54
I don't see the problem - I've a load of friends who happen to be female & attractive, yet the idea of being 'more than just friends' has never cropped up, nor need it in a mature relationship  ------------- 
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Posted By: chopper
Date Posted: December 09 2009 at 07:18
What, having a cow as a best buddy isn't a bit pervy?
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Posted By: Blacksword
Date Posted: December 09 2009 at 07:18
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I get on better with women than men anyway, so yes.
------------- Ultimately bored by endless ecstasy! |
Posted By: mrcozdude
Date Posted: December 09 2009 at 07:42
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There friends until.......both of you have had a little to drink.
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Posted By: jampa17
Date Posted: December 09 2009 at 08:52
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Nah... been friends is what we make until we have a chance to share some intimacy... yes, I have a lot of friends, but I don't doubt it could be little more if there's a chance... so, Not chance at hell for me... ------------- |
Posted By: Pekka
Date Posted: December 09 2009 at 09:01
Well, that's true for the most part, but I'd say there's three or four friends in the group, one of them a really good one. And a few others outside of school. Then there was that one female friend who decided to mess up our friendship and as a result we've been sharing a flat for three years  ------------- http://www.progarchives.com/album.asp?id=42652" rel="nofollow - It's on PA!
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Posted By: omri
Date Posted: December 09 2009 at 09:06
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I had to vote "Yes". I have few female friends and some of them even look quite nice (not realy my taste but that's something few drinks can solve) and still I feel no need to have sex with them. It is true that most of them are married but I don't think you can blame my high moral for not even trying.
The only fair question is am I afraid to get a NO answer ? ------------- omri |
Posted By: omri
Date Posted: December 09 2009 at 09:07
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Oh, and thank god for that ! ------------- omri |
Posted By: The Pessimist
Date Posted: December 09 2009 at 09:19
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Most of my friends are women come to think of it. The one's I actually consider "friends" anyway, rather than the ones I just acquaint with. Don't get me wrong, I've got my boys to have a good old laugh with and to do what us guys do best with (i.e. getting horrifically drunk, pulling, partying, doing dumb sh*t for the pure fun of it), but I find I can talk to women about sensitive stuff moreso. And I have a lotta sensitive stuff to talk about so you do the math. I voted for the first option.
------------- "Market value is irrelevant to intrinsic value." Arnold Schoenberg |
Posted By: Equality 7-2521
Date Posted: December 09 2009 at 09:31
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Nope unless both guy and girl are very ugly. ------------- "One had to be a Newton to notice that the moon is falling, when everyone sees that it doesn't fall. " |
Posted By: rushfan4
Date Posted: December 09 2009 at 09:33
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Tiger Woods was able to have a female friend who was only a friend. Oh wait, nope, breaking news, he was having an affair with her too. ------------- 
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Posted By: Negoba
Date Posted: December 09 2009 at 09:37
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Frankly, any adult relationship has some degree of sexuality to it. Sexuality comes in all sorts of shapes, colors, and intensity. And it certainly doesn't mean any of it goes anywhere near physical contact.
Dawkins and Mike being a perfect example...
 Just the fact that you think to yourself "Would I?" means you're already there.
------------- You are quite a fine person, and I am very fond of you. But you are only quite a little fellow, in a wide world, after all. |
Posted By: Dean
Date Posted: December 09 2009 at 10:18
------------- What? |
Posted By: Jim Garten
Date Posted: December 09 2009 at 10:19
But if the answer to that question is "yes, if she weren't a friend"... -------------
Jon Lord 1941 - 2012 |
Posted By: Finnforest
Date Posted: December 09 2009 at 10:20
Dean, your mailbox is FULL!!  ------------- ...that moment you realize you like "Mob Rules" better than "Heaven and Hell" |
Posted By: rushfan4
Date Posted: December 09 2009 at 10:23
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In re: to Finn's avatar: That scene in Battlestar where Kara and Adama Jr. were boxing each other, was a rather unfortunate scene for the show, but it also was somewhat instrumental in showing Kara's ability to stand toe to toe with the big dogs. And they couldn't just be friends. -------------
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Posted By: Negoba
Date Posted: December 09 2009 at 10:27
That describes the majority of my friendships. ------------- You are quite a fine person, and I am very fond of you. But you are only quite a little fellow, in a wide world, after all. |
Posted By: jampa17
Date Posted: December 09 2009 at 10:30
Nah... that describes most of their friendships towards me... girls tend to love me, always as a friend... ------------- |
Posted By: Dean
Date Posted: December 09 2009 at 10:36
 ------------- What? |
Posted By: The T
Date Posted: December 09 2009 at 11:27
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It depends. If you're an atheist, you see women as the ones who didn't develop testes, they are matter of study; if you're an agnostic, you doubt until you see evidence there's nothing behind those pants; if you're catholic priest, women are your impossible dream, psychosis may take hold of you; if you're muslim, they are your servants; if you're an avant-garde prog fan, they're fiction, their existence less relevant than that of the harshest dissonance.
They can be friends if there's no attraction whatsoever. With any hint of attraction, even though a friendship-like relationship can be mantained, it will never, never be like a true 100% interest-free friendship.
I guess... I have a girlfriend but not too many girl-friends.... ------------- 
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Posted By: horsewithteeth11
Date Posted: December 09 2009 at 11:33
I'd hope so, given that you already have a girlfriend. -------------
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Posted By: Henry Plainview
Date Posted: December 09 2009 at 12:04
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Yes. Haven't you ever heard of the FRIEND ZONE? Not that I have experienced the friend zone from either gender, but the internet would not lie to me! ------------- if you own a sodastream i hate you |
Posted By: A Person
Date Posted: December 09 2009 at 12:06
| I am just friends with some females. |
Posted By: Negoba
Date Posted: December 09 2009 at 12:18
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A related item to my previous post, sexual rivalry can insinuate even into the strongest friendships ever. (Thinking of this pack of male teenage "friends" I was watching at a game last night, and how their behavior changed when a female entered.) ------------- You are quite a fine person, and I am very fond of you. But you are only quite a little fellow, in a wide world, after all. |
Posted By: CPicard
Date Posted: December 09 2009 at 12:58
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I can be only friend or collegue with women: I offered to co-worker to go at the museum on a saturday (I live in Paris) but she never called back... And since my favorite woman is lesbian, it might happen that I would be nothing but friend with any woman I could encounter. |
Posted By: Slartibartfast
Date Posted: December 09 2009 at 13:17
| It's funny, when you throw in the whole heterosexuality, homosexuality, bisexuality, marriage thing, as long as people respect one another and are mature and not on the prowl, so to speak, the answer is yes. |
Posted By: Negoba
Date Posted: December 09 2009 at 13:18
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As a male, can you honestly ever completely turn off your "on the prowl." ------------- You are quite a fine person, and I am very fond of you. But you are only quite a little fellow, in a wide world, after all. |
Posted By: Slartibartfast
Date Posted: December 09 2009 at 13:20
Speaking as a male, I'm not entirely certain. I mean, I'm always pretty much horny unless I am really tired. |
Posted By: CPicard
Date Posted: December 09 2009 at 13:55
"On the prowl"? That sounds.... disquieting... I still prefer "horny": it doesn't turn women into "preys". |
Posted By: zappaholic
Date Posted: December 09 2009 at 20:04
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I went with Yepper, since it's not like I have any choice in the matter. (I'm not gay, I'm just 100% undateable.)
------------- "Democracy is the theory that the common people know what they want, and deserve to get it good and hard." -- H.L. Mencken |
Posted By: Negoba
Date Posted: December 09 2009 at 20:41
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My ex-roommate claimed he was allergic to deodorant and yet still managed to find a cute girlfriend that eventually married him. There is no "undateable." ------------- You are quite a fine person, and I am very fond of you. But you are only quite a little fellow, in a wide world, after all. |
Posted By: Slartibartfast
Date Posted: December 09 2009 at 22:45
It's the banging on the cowbell thing, isn't it? ------------- Released date are often when it it impacted you but recorded dates are when it really happened... 
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Posted By: Henry Plainview
Date Posted: December 09 2009 at 22:53
------------- if you own a sodastream i hate you |
Posted By: A Person
Date Posted: December 09 2009 at 23:30
I honestly can't think of a time I was "on the prowl". Maybe I'm not trying hard enough? Or maybe I don't care enough. |
Posted By: ExittheLemming
Date Posted: December 10 2009 at 04:04
Perceptive post certainly. Paddy McAloon of Prefab Sprout expressed this best: But I don't know how to describe the Modern Rose, When I can't refer to her shape against her clothes. With the fever of purple prose. -------------
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Posted By: Negoba
Date Posted: December 10 2009 at 06:30
Plainview finally reveals an actual self-portrait. 
------------- You are quite a fine person, and I am very fond of you. But you are only quite a little fellow, in a wide world, after all. |
Posted By: jampa17
Date Posted: December 10 2009 at 09:05
yeah... I met some really ugly and boring persons that always have a different girlfriend, so there's no "undateable", but if you don't let down the cowbell, dang... how can you ask her for her phone number...???  ------------- |
Posted By: UndercoverBoy
Date Posted: December 10 2009 at 21:30
Depends on who the woman is. I would have a very hard time being "just friends" with this particular person:
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Posted By: Toaster Mantis
Date Posted: December 11 2009 at 03:45
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Of course they can. I've never really understood the entire idea that people of different gender can't be friends without anything sexual between them, maybe it's an American thing? ------------- "The past is not some static being, it is not a previous present, nor a present that has passed away; the past has its own dynamic being which is constantly renewed and renewing." - Claire Colebrook |
Posted By: ExittheLemming
Date Posted: December 11 2009 at 05:57
Try 'biological' for starters, the rest is denial. -------------
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Posted By: clarke2001
Date Posted: December 11 2009 at 08:18
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Yes. While I admit there's always a tiny part of me that is looking to my female friends through a sexual prism (and for some of them, not only tiny) - there are also two female friends - BEST female friends - who are just friends. They're both of my age, intelligent and attractive. We are sharing our intimate stories a good deal, talking about death, fears, happiness, finances, sex (in depth, describing particular orgasms, kinky stuff, and so on). I never imagined myself in sexual interaction with them (except as a gedankenexperiment, bith with zero arousal). On of them, who doesn't hesitate to say what she think, summed it up nicely: " I can't f*ck Moris. He's like my brother." ------------- |
Posted By: omri
Date Posted: December 13 2009 at 10:59
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There are lots of stories of people who f**ked their brother / sister. What's wrong with your friend ? ------------- omri |
Posted By: CPicard
Date Posted: December 13 2009 at 14:57
Er... It... Well, it's... Er... .... Have you siblings? It would be interesting to hear about your relationships... And don't forget to talk about your mother and father. Oh, yeah, one question: have you heard about Oedipus? |