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The Runaway
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Topic: Why I can be annoying at times... Posted: July 17 2009 at 13:35 |
I lost my parents when I was 6, and I've had a rough life ever since then. I may get into details but I don't really like to talk about it. I just cant concentrate, and I have a hard time doing some things. I am only a member of two forums, and the other one is treating me like sh*t. I use forums as an escape pod, to get away from everything that annoys me, so please don't be so "you so gay" if I start another review thread, or which one thread.
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Logan
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Posted: July 17 2009 at 13:39 |
I'm very sorry to hear that, and I apologise for any intolerance I have shown. Often we judge way too harshly, and forget that there are real people who have, and have had, really significant problems and issues in life (sometimes those who are very critical are going through, or have gone through very hard times too). Sometimes I think we forget, or don't care, that there are real people with real emotions behind the words
We need more compassion, empathy, tolerance, and deeper/ more profound communication. Message boards are very clunky means of socialising, and are often not a good means of escape, I find.
Edited by Logan - July 17 2009 at 13:48
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The Runaway
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Posted: July 17 2009 at 13:46 |
Thanks man.
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The Sleepwalker
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Posted: July 17 2009 at 13:47 |
Aragorn224, that's terrible to hear, I hope because you have told this now, people will watch out with what they will say. I agree with Logan that people often judge too harsh, definitely on internet forums, cause here you can't see the emotions of other people, and someone might have been very hurt without you knowing it.
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StyLaZyn
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Joined: November 22 2005
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Posted: July 17 2009 at 13:54 |
Aragorn224 wrote:
I lost my parents when I was 6, and I've had a rough life ever since then. I may get into details but I don't really like to talk about it. I just cant concentrate, and I have a hard time doing some things. I am only a member of two forums, and the other one is treating me like sh*t. I use forums as an escape pod, to get away from everything that annoys me, so please don't be so "you so gay" if I start another review thread, or which one thread. |
Seriously, look into what ADD is about. I have it and so does one of my sons. It sounds like there is a chance you may have it. Understanding what it does to you helps conquer it for the most part. ADD makes a person fail to complete things, most things, including reading, thinking, and speaking. ADD persons tend to be impulsive, doing and saying the first thing that comes to mind before completely thinking it through.
Edited by StyLaZyn - July 17 2009 at 13:57
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Easy Money
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Posted: July 17 2009 at 13:56 |
If they (the other weirdos on here) didn't like you and didn't feel like your already part of the crew, they wouldn't kid with you like that, welcome aboard. ... one of us ... one of us (Simpsons)
Edited by Easy Money - July 17 2009 at 13:58
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aapatsos
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Posted: July 17 2009 at 13:58 |
It's really important to know other people and forums etc is probably not the best place - one can only see your words (and maybe thoughts) but is difficult to get to know you as a person. Even if I disagree or feel some people write quite negative posts I try to make them understand that and not 'bash' them. I realise your loss has had a singificant effect, I am very sorry to hear that (I am fortunate not to have experienced sth similar in my life) but your honesty is even more important and this is what matters. So to you
Edited by aapatsos - July 17 2009 at 13:59
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JJLehto
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Location: Tallahassee, FL
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Posted: July 17 2009 at 13:58 |
Aragorn224 wrote:
I lost my parents when I was 6, and I've had a rough life ever since then. I may get into details but I don't really like to talk about it. I just cant concentrate, and I have a hard time doing some things. I am only a member of two forums, and the other one is treating me like sh*t. I use forums as an escape pod, to get away from everything that annoys me, so please don't be so "you so gay" if I start another review thread, or which one thread. |
Well I am sorry. And Easy Money does have a point, even though we can be harsh at times it is in a weird type of jest, (us proggers are weird folk). you've had a life that I would not wish on anyone. However, without knowing all that I hope you can at least understand why I would say some things I did. Anyway, I am sorry and believe me, if I hurt you I did not mean to. And I never did welcome you to the archives!
Edited by JJLehto - July 17 2009 at 14:01
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Snow Dog
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Posted: July 17 2009 at 13:59 |
Easy Money wrote:
If they (the other weirdos on here) didn't like you and didn't feel like your already part of the crew, they wouldn't kid with you like that, welcome aboard. ... one of us ... one of us (Simpsons) |
My thougts exactly. I don;t think anything actually nasty has been said!
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Henry Plainview
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Posted: July 17 2009 at 14:05 |
My condolences for your loss, but I'm not going to apologize for telling the truth.
Edited by Henry Plainview - July 17 2009 at 14:07
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if you own a sodastream i hate you
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JJLehto
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Posted: July 17 2009 at 14:13 |
Henry Plainview wrote:
My condolences for your loss, but I'm not going to apologize for telling the truth. |
See Aragorn, if you want to see how I treat people that I actually do not like just look at the average exchange between me and Henry
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Queen By-Tor
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Posted: July 17 2009 at 14:15 |
Henry Plainview wrote:
My condolences for your loss, but I'm not going to apologize for telling the truth. |
This.
Seriously, yes we all feel bad for you, but if you're being a t**t you're still being a t**t and we'll tell you so. This is the internetz, not a church comfort group, so while you're a strong dude obviously, you've got to learn to be less grating.
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Logan
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Posted: July 17 2009 at 14:17 |
If I really dislike people, I avoid them. Ignoring someone commonly shows more dislike than critically engaging them.
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The Runaway
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Location: London
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Posted: July 17 2009 at 14:27 |
King By-Tor wrote:
Henry Plainview wrote:
My condolences for your loss, but I'm not going to apologize for telling the truth. |
This.
Seriously, yes we all feel bad for you, but if you're being a t**t you're still being a t**t and we'll tell you so. This is the internetz, not a church comfort group, so while you're a strong dude obviously, you've got to learn to be less grating. |
Did that just ruin my chacnes of getting in the Eclectic Team?
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Henry Plainview
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Posted: July 17 2009 at 14:32 |
Aragorn224 wrote:
King By-Tor wrote:
Henry Plainview wrote:
My condolences for your loss, but I'm not going to apologize for telling the truth. |
This.
Seriously, yes we all feel bad for you, but if you're being a t**t you're still being a t**t and we'll tell you so. This is the internetz, not a church comfort group, so while you're a strong dude obviously, you've got to learn to be less grating. |
Did that just ruin my chacnes of getting in the Eclectic Team? |
Hahahaha. Are you seriously 21? Because it doesn't seem like it. ;-)
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if you own a sodastream i hate you
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The Runaway
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Posted: July 17 2009 at 14:35 |
Nope, I'm actually 7.
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StyLaZyn
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Posted: July 17 2009 at 14:38 |
Aragorn224 wrote:
Nope, I'm actually 7. |
In dog years?
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The Runaway
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Posted: July 17 2009 at 14:42 |
No, I'm actually 7 years old.
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Epignosis
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Posted: July 17 2009 at 14:45 |
King By-Tor wrote:
Henry Plainview wrote:
My condolences for your loss, but I'm not going to apologize for telling the truth. |
This.
Seriously, yes we all feel bad for you, but if you're being a t**t you're still being a t**t and we'll tell you so. This is the internetz, not a church comfort group, so while you're a strong dude obviously, you've got to learn to be less grating. | We do, however, have a Christian Thread.
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The Pessimist
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Joined: June 13 2007
Location: United Kingdom
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Points: 3834
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Posted: July 17 2009 at 14:52 |
Whoa what now?
Edited by The Pessimist - July 17 2009 at 14:59
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