How to deal with difficult members on here

nick_h_nz wrote: I often think a lot of the misunderstandings are down to language. There are several times when I’ve seen someone react to someone else because they thought someone was being rude, when I think it was more because English was not the native language of either the original poster, and/or the one who reacted. ...

Psychedelic Paul wrote: someone_else wrote: [QUOTE=Psychedelic Paul] Who can forget Leonard Nimoy's Ballad of Bilbo Baggins, where everyone has pointy ears apart from Mr Spock.   If he would also appear with Dwarves, he would be the only one without a beard. In the same way as Frank Beard of ZZ Top is the only member without a beard.

AFlowerKingCrimson wrote: What I want to know is what if the moderators act like trolls? Yes, that has happened on here believe me.

We are all beholden to the rules. If you believe that you see abuse, please use the report post button: cite the infraction, provide context, and provide a link*. I am not receiving those reports, alternately PM the mods or admin, and as I mentioned I think often PMing the person to try to discuss it with them and alert them can help if done without anger or malice, but in a reasonable, calm way. That's a considerate approach. It maybe due to misunderstanding, it may be due to the other expressing themselves badly or having a bad day. It may not be deliberately malicious. I think "try to be considerate is something to be wished for all, and try to listen to others and talk things out rationally with them.

here are the Site Rules and Guidelines: http://www.progarchives.com/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=13083

Note that "Use the report button which appears in every post to notify the admin of any breach of the site’s rules which you notice" is in bold.

* Edit: Sorry I misspoke, if reporting a post using the report post function, I don't think one need provide a link as that does it automatically. If PMing concerns, then a hyperlink to the offending post makes things easier. And commonly it is better not to quote that post if violating the rules (may in various cases be better not to respond to it and just report it) because the post may be hidden by us, and that likely would then mean having to hide your post and response as well. We do suggest non-engagement often with the individual, and instead just report (with the button or via PM, and then we will take action immediately and/or investigate further -- sometimes intent has to be determined and considered more and one can view/ interpret something from different perspectives depending on how one views the context. For instance, sometimes jokes are misinterpreted, or sometimes someone was unclear, and sometimes someone just read into another something that was not intended. Some cases of abuse are much more obvious than others, of course). If there is a problem, then it is best to report it formally with specifics, and of course one should be careful when it comes to insinuation.


Edited by Logan - February 20 2021 at 14:44

Psychedelic Paul wrote: Who can forget Leonard Nimoy's Ballad of Bilbo Baggins, where everyone has pointy ears apart from Mr Spock.

Nogbad_The_Bad wrote: Ok i clearly missed the excitement

Please cool yourself down and leave self-unmanageable guys alone. That's all. 

Ok i clearly missed the excitement

Wow, yeah he is just straight up jerk for no reason. I guess I never noticed him much before.

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