How to deal with difficult members on here

Under Post Options select "Report Post" and let an administrator take care of it.

There's nothing extreme about it.  That is what the function is for.  Otherwise, either ignore them.  Or match their a****le-ness and risk getting yourself banned.

It depends on my mood.  I generally ignore, but if I am in the right/wrong mood I will respond with an equally snarky comment.  But I have no problem reporting posts.  When I was a Site Monitor in my previous PA life that was one of my responsibilities.

rushfan4 wrote: It depends on my mood.  I generally ignore, but if I am in the right/wrong mood I will respond with an equally snarky comment.  But I have no problem reporting posts.  When I was a Site Monitor in my previous PA life that was one of my responsibilities.

Edited by Psychedelic Paul - December 06 2020 at 12:20

AFlowerKingCrimson wrote: rushfan4 wrote: It depends on my mood.  I generally ignore, but if I am in the right/wrong mood I will respond with an equally snarky comment.  But I have no problem reporting posts.  When I was a Site Monitor in my previous PA life that was one of my responsibilities. Previous life as in on here under a different user name?

Nope. I've always only been rushfan4.  Before they took away my title and made me an honorary collaborator.  I took some time away from the site one summer and was no longer a Site Monitor.

rushfan4 wrote: Under Post Options select "Report Post" and let an administrator take care of it.

It depends on you and the particular situation.

We rarely "deal with" members unless we have orders for organs. Organ harvesting can be lucrative, but there isn't a huge demand for Hammonds these days, which more Proggers seems to acquire (actually, we are not out to get the member's members or internal organs and actually not many Proggers have Hammonds. Seriously, of course this is voluntary and we get no remuneration).

If not formally reporting for abuse -- if one is then one should specifically mention the infraction per the site rules and guidelines and offer links -- I often like to PM the person to share my concerns. When I have responded in the heat of the moment by PM or in the forum without putting much thought into it, then often I have regretted it. I think calling someone out who is clearly deliberately being obnoxious or abusive is fine, just try not to break the rules when doing it, and it is good to wait until one is calm and collected. Sometimes ignoring works best. Sometimes one may be misreading another or missing a joke and a more charitable outlook, and inquisitive approach, is warranted.

I like as much as possible that the forum can moderate itself, and as much as possible to deal with things oneself, but in a reasonable and thoughtful manner rather than taking the law into one's own hands and meting out justice Reprisalizer style.

By the way, I'm rarely around these days. I can't think straight at all (serious cognitive impairment), so if this is not at all helpful, blame it on my brain.

ExittheLemming wrote: Disclaimer: I should have been banned countless times and was once (right at the outset when I was deemed to have been disrespectful to an Admin - TonyR. I have Finnforest (Jim) to thank for being reinstated so I owe him big time or: he has a lot to answer for ) He hasn't been around for a while so I hope he's safe and well. I was also an admin for about 2 years after that. That said, it strikes me that the place has become so moribund over the last 12 months or so that without the trolls, spammers, snowflakes, sock puppets, bewildered hippies and terminally needy there wouldn't be anyone left to actually ban. It stands to reason that behaviour inimical to the aims of the site if left unchallenged is unlikely to change so can run the risk of becoming normalised over time. I also think that a polemical writing style like erm...mine, is conflated with trolling but this is just symptomatic of a lazy association of ideas so pervasive with netiquette. How to deal with difficult people? Confrontation without aggression is the key and a very,very hard art to master. Kudos to the moderators and admins everywhere who try to strike this elusive balance.

SteveG wrote: ^ Not deceased, but close. Dying.