Any other 20s aged female prog lovers besides me? - Progressive Rock Music Forum

Nogbad_The_Bad wrote:

Progdaughter at RIO

I have also been to ProgDay and I have the same exact shirt that your daughter is wearing!

Something is funny here though... only one response has been from some who is actually in their 20's it seems. Although I didn't look at profiles, only read comments. And half of the posts are talking about their boys in prog!

micky wrote:

khonfusedkhemist wrote:

But young females interested in prog seem hard to find? I've never had a friend to share my love of prog.. My parents go very hard in the scene, I've attended countless shows since birth, even the very last Nearfest etc. It flows through my blood at this point. Unfortunately, almost no one else young around me seems to have any interest or they don't understand it.

Well welcome to the forum... interesting dilemma you have there. One that we often hear just as much from young men. Digging all that hip hop sh*t and wanting to be hip and cool.. which well.. this music largely is NOT hahahha.

Dear... one thing I think you should consider. Music is very much a personal thing.. you don't really need friends to share a love of.. what matter is how that music afflect you and speaks to you personally and perhaps it is just me. That is a terribly difficult concept to verbalize.. to try to explain to others. Perhaps it is just me and why I generally suck as a reviewer.. some do perhaps have that gift.. but think it a rare one.

If you do feel the need to share the love you have the right place.. but don't lose sight of what it is really important.. your personal connection and experiences with that music.

and I may add.. I've seen many a young lady at prog shows.. what I think is rather common though, especiailly in the non hip-hop category which is more a cultural thing than a musical thing.. is for many in the younger generation.. genres.. are really quite irrelevant.

I rememeber making this point at a prog show my wife went to.. we were seated right next to a bunch of rather.. young.. LOL

ladies.. who probably had zero concept or notion that what they were seeing was considered prog. They were there.. and loving the concert simply because it was great music.

something perhaps to ponder.. and again.. welcome to the site.

Although I appreciate the words you have provided me to ponder, this is all of what I have pondered before turning to a forum. I am, although in my 20's and born in the age of technology, not computer literate. Choosing to turn to the internet was a hard choice to make.

I have been to a lowballed number of 150 shows, mostly progressive rock. I have been going to shows at Orion Sound Studios since I moved to Maryland when I was 5. I see females at more mainstream prog shows, Anathema, Porcupine Tree, etc. I don't think I am socially developed enough yet to just talk to people at shows?

I think it is easier to brush off connecting with other humans about music when you are older; meaning that you have a more developed sense of identity, and also DO have a community in which you can share music with people who are in the same stage of life as yourself. Older people also seem to "not give f*ck".

It is not that I care what other people think, because for the most part I don't. But for millennia music has been something that bonds peoples and their cultures. It was hard to be 11 years old and not have that kind of cultural connection (being told listening to something as mainstream as The Red Hot Chili Peppers was "old people music"). Being laughed at that my music was "sh*tty". And despite that, I continued to listen to what I liked... Young people don't have as much of a developed sense of self. And reaching out to the group is obviously common, as other people have mentioned how their children have veered towards hip hop and the likes.

Knowing you can share the experience of music you love is something very special.

Sorry for the essay. College, amiright?

micky wrote:

hah.. I like you. No bullsh*t in you. Interesting we have likely met.. most likely definitely have your parents.. we (Raff and I) are close, local to you and vets of many shows at the Orion as well as Progday and Nearfest.

In fact.. I had a suspicion of who you might be right from first seeing the thread. As I have one met lady about your age with two big time prog fans from the MD area. Anyhow.. I like the way you think.. and talk.

I don't doubt that we have met. And I feel as if my parents know everyone ("they go hard in the scene"). They go to festivals in Europe too. Also, my dad will talk to you forever about anything.. if that helps with identification. I am not using my first name here, because this is the internet after all.

I was talking to someone not in my family about how I felt about music and friends, and they are the one to suggest turning to a forum. So, that is what I'm doing!

Edited by khonfusedkhemist - August 02 2019 at 15:47

micky wrote:

-- a lot of smart people of various tastes. My suggestion.. don't be shy.. just jump in and share your thoughts on the topics that interest you. The forum can appear to be a bit rough around the edges.. but it is just a charade to scare away Dream Theater fans from ever coming back. The truth is .. most here are really big teddy bears and would love to talk at you and talk the music they love, you love, and best yet perhaps turn you on to stuff you might not know yet. Though I suspect you have had a very rigourous exposure.

Good advice ~

"Too often we enjoy the comfort of opinion without the discomfort of thought." -- John F. Kennedy

Now I want to name a band Progdaughter.

"Too often we enjoy the comfort of opinion without the discomfort of thought." -- John F. Kennedy

micky wrote:

Atavachron wrote:

Now I want to name a band Progdaughter.

hah.. do you one better my friend.. keeping it real in love and appreciation of our much beloved Maryland proggers... (quite a crew actually)

Progdaughter and the Baking Broads..

all male band of course.... dude. we'd rake in the gigs.. everyone wants to hear a falling down drunk cover of Close to the Edge done by a bunch of middle aged guys..

in drag

Of course they do. Two words: chick magnet.

"Too often we enjoy the comfort of opinion without the discomfort of thought." -- John F. Kennedy

Nogbad_The_Bad wrote:

Progdaughter at RIO

Is that you out of your cow gear?

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