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Posted: June 09 2010 at 16:20
rushfan4 wrote:
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rushfan4 wrote:
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rushfan4 wrote:
That is tough, but I can relate. I am quite extroverted around friends and family and within familiar surroundings, but I am really quiet within groups of people that I am not familiar with.
I'd be lying if I said I wasn't shy.
As I said. I can relate. From reading the forums, I think that many of us can relate. I've always been really shy myself. As I've gotten older I have gotten better, but I still have "panic" attacks when I have to go to meetings with clients that I am not familiar with, or if I go to business society meetings.
I know what you mean. I guess we do have more than Rush in common.
Yep. I'm not really sure where I get it from. Both of my parents seem to be quite extraverted. Probably, my dad moreso than my mom. There is nothing wrong with being shy and quiet, but I prefer my extraverted moments. Alcohol has a way of helping with that, but unfortunately, can too easily become a crutch.
Some pretty basic advice that I can give you is (a) the worse that they can do is say "no", ignore you or tell you to go away. Unless "They" are a stranger offering you candy in which case it is best to avoid anyways; (b) although not always true, many people are just as afraid to approach you as you are to approach them. Although it can be extremely awkward it is amazing how small talk and a few kind words can break the ice with other people. That is not to say that after the small talk the awkwardness won't come back but at least your foot is in the door and you can decide whether it is worth expanding upon the conversation or leaving it at the small talk; (c) it is important that you step outside of your comfort zone by trying to meet new people on occasion; because (d) surprisingly, the more you do it, the easier it gets.
That is good advice, however, I have made a friend by essentially not saying anything.
Joined: May 22 2007
Location: Michigan, U.S.
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Posted: June 09 2010 at 16:22
A Person wrote:
rushfan4 wrote:
A Person wrote:
rushfan4 wrote:
A Person wrote:
rushfan4 wrote:
That is tough, but I can relate. I am quite extroverted around friends and family and within familiar surroundings, but I am really quiet within groups of people that I am not familiar with.
I'd be lying if I said I wasn't shy.
As I said. I can relate. From reading the forums, I think that many of us can relate. I've always been really shy myself. As I've gotten older I have gotten better, but I still have "panic" attacks when I have to go to meetings with clients that I am not familiar with, or if I go to business society meetings.
I know what you mean. I guess we do have more than Rush in common.
Yep. I'm not really sure where I get it from. Both of my parents seem to be quite extraverted. Probably, my dad moreso than my mom. There is nothing wrong with being shy and quiet, but I prefer my extraverted moments. Alcohol has a way of helping with that, but unfortunately, can too easily become a crutch.
Some pretty basic advice that I can give you is (a) the worse that they can do is say "no", ignore you or tell you to go away. Unless "They" are a stranger offering you candy in which case it is best to avoid anyways; (b) although not always true, many people are just as afraid to approach you as you are to approach them. Although it can be extremely awkward it is amazing how small talk and a few kind words can break the ice with other people. That is not to say that after the small talk the awkwardness won't come back but at least your foot is in the door and you can decide whether it is worth expanding upon the conversation or leaving it at the small talk; (c) it is important that you step outside of your comfort zone by trying to meet new people on occasion; because (d) surprisingly, the more you do it, the easier it gets.
That is good advice, however, I have made a friend by essentially not saying anything.
Which leads to (e) introverts make surprisingly good listeners.
Joined: November 03 2008
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Posted: June 09 2010 at 16:36
Wow... such a coincidence that you guys are talking about that. I've been working on those issues myself. Since I'll be moving on my own, I realised there was a big huge risk I might end up staying in my apartment all the time after work and on the weekend, so I really need to get out there and meet people. Well, get to the bottom of what's paralysing me first, then work on it. My crutch has not been alcohol (last party I went to with mostly people I didn't know I spent fighting tears of anguish), but the internet.
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