Love Advice?

Sean Trane wrote: Conor Fynes wrote: So, this might seem like a weird place to talk about this.. but my girlfriend of a year and a half and I broke up on the phone about 10 minutes ago.   I have funny feelings in my stomach right now.   The question is... what do I do now?   You're asking advice on love on a prog forum, where most of the members (not all, mind you) are self-declared virgin/loser/celibate or unsociable????     You must be masochist.... or you really must wish for that break up to be definitive   Is she worth it?? Did you have fun almost all of the time????   I'd say sleep on it and talk it over with her tomorrow

Hugues, I wonder who am I when I'm quite unsociable person who is currently happily in relationship for 16 long months with a girl who is equally unsociable as I am. Therefore, we are two unsociable persons who like to be unsociable together. Friends aren't that important to us as each other is. Of course, this is also caused by music we are listening, not many people are able to understand Prog. Who knows why, maybe people in general doesn't like to think.

But it's scary how many people are declaring their virginity, makes me think about differences between cultures.

Losers ? And these losers often things they are winners :-D Hugues, I suppose you are luckily married guy, am I right ?

Thanks for your opinions guys...

HAH, I'm a reviewer on Prog Archives. Have I the charm to think of subtle lines? No, but I can certainly recommend you an album if you're trying to get into Porcupine Tree.

LOL I'll have to use that line sometime! =D

Falx wrote: Conor Fynes wrote: Thanks for your opinions guys...   The advice I want isn't actualy about the girl that it's over with; I just couldn't deal with it anymore. It was just too miserable, and alot of fighting.   I'm trying to figure out how an internet addicted Prog fan meets new girls and initiates relationships with them!   What do girls look for?   And how not to be friends material?? Apparently, girls are attracted to guys who are... <any word I would use is going to be blocked by the filter>... not very nice people. Aggression and risk-taking behaviour trigger some primal impulse and make them want to get it on. If you're cuddly and non-threatening, that puts you squarely in "friendsville".=F=

It can seem that way, but it's not really the case. Women like confidence in men, and confidence shouldn;t be confused with aggression. Women like a man who can take charge of a situation. They like men who are popular with and respected by their male friends. They like men who still respect their ex girlfrineds..but dont keep in touch with them

Sometimes women who have come from violent or unstable backgrounds like the 'bad guys' you're referring to, and although these women can seem quite compelling and attractive, they are to be avoided at all costs!!

harmonium.ro wrote: Blacksword wrote: It can seem that way, but it's not really the case. Women like confidence in men, and confidence shouldn;t be confused with aggression. Women like a man who can take charge of a situation. They like men who are popular with and respected by their male friends. They like men who still respect their ex girlfrineds..but dont keep in touch with them Yeah that's true... I even have the exact same problem from your last proposition

You're still in touch with your ex? Oh dear, that can be a problem.

Of course, it's different if they want to stay in touch with theirs.. You'll be expected to respect their ALL of their friendships.

Falx wrote: Conor Fynes wrote: Thanks for your opinions guys...   The advice I want isn't actualy about the girl that it's over with; I just couldn't deal with it anymore. It was just too miserable, and alot of fighting.   I'm trying to figure out how an internet addicted Prog fan meets new girls and initiates relationships with them!   What do girls look for?   And how not to be friends material?? Apparently, girls are attracted to guys who are... <any word I would use is going to be blocked by the filter>... not very nice people. Aggression and risk-taking behaviour trigger some primal impulse and make them want to get it on. If you're cuddly and non-threatening, that puts you squarely in "friendsville". =F=

Slartibartfast wrote: Conor Fynes wrote: What do girls look for?   A big schlong without too much bad attitude.

ORLY?!? I thought they just wanted a sweet guy who was sensitive and cared about their feelings?

That depends. Did you actually love her?

If so, you have the option to give up and remain single the rest of your life (if you meet someone else who you love "more", it means you didn't love her at all in the first place) or fight for her.

If not, well, what the typical love cricket does is find someone else who the back of the mind knows isn't really for them but the left cerebrum convinces them that that person is their one and only Savior. You'll tell her you love her, probably f**k her, then slowly but surely care less for her until you wait until she breaks up with you, or more respectably break up with her. You will then annoy your friends about how sad you are. In this stage, the back of your mind doesn't mind at all and knows that it's all done, but you're bitch of a left cerebrum keeps telling you to act depressed and pretend that you've lost all hope. But then in a couple of weeks, you'll meet someone else. Rinse and repeat. However, you don't seem like a love cricket. In fact, you seem pretty genuine. So I'd recommend finding someone else, and be more careful about finding someone who can agree to disagree, and can still love you even with the difference of opinion. Obviously, you have to love her as well. Once (or if, for the love of cynical people) you find this person, the rest is up to you.

Asking a member of these forums for love advice is like asking Bill O Reilly to host an equality rights convention.