Taking a break from PA.

Start less threads and respond to them instead.

 

Unless you do it to yourself, but if your consience is clear, than who cares what others think.

 

Yes that definitely seems to be the case here although I do have a history with this person so that by itself makes it seem personal.  

I've been giving this a lot of thought and this is what I've come up with (and this applies everywhere on the Web, not just on PA).

II. However, if we are talking the kind of people who tend to get emotional or senselessly arrogant every now and then; the kind that tends to use negative language ("Apparently, you don't know this or that", or "Obviously, you've never been here or there"), the kind that tends to make disparaging remarks about someone's intelligence; or the kind that makes indirect, sarcastic remarks* (maybe not with malicious intent), then I recommend the following options:

0) This is imperative: choose your words wisely. Think positively. Be sensible, not sensitive. Pay attention to the language you are using (as mentioned in the paragraph above). Some people just don't care for that, but I hope you do.

1) Try to trump you feelings about what words that person used and try to have an intelligent conversation with that same person on a different topic;

2) Try to trump you feelings about what words that person used and put yourself in his/her shoes, look at the topic from his/her angle;

3) Ignore them. Don't say anything. Making a remark about the person to anyone or anywhere will accomplish nothing and it does not help the forum on any level in the slightest. Don't try to correct anything or anybody or investigate into that other person's nature. If you've tried all the points above that I've suggested, then you probably know: it's not you.

Never take anything negative too personal. If I see someone talk crap about what I said, I think "A-a-a-ah, crud!" and move on.

 

Awww Prog_Traveller  big hug.

Some comments you should "take with a pinch of salt", it not personal. Doesn't matter how we got here, the fact is that we all share a great interest in this genre of music as diverse it may seem. 

Do not take it to heart, we have a few grumpies on here but once you get passed what one might perceive as a bad sarcastic jokes, you'll find that people here are actually very nice.

I too at first wasn't sure if this is were I should be but quickly warmed up to everyone. I decided to hug them to death (they had no choice in this matter) even if they hated that hihihi  

This is a site of people coming together for the purpose I mentioned above, forum topics too can be most interesting and stimulating while elsewhere you might NOT get this.

 

Please do not let negative experience cloud your judgment, don't take it to heart.

 

Another big hug to you  

 I mean ... I've not had any bad experiences yet but just in case like ? 

 

Yay of course yes!

Impossible. 

 

hahaha you two, you both should know coz I have hugged you to death many times lolol haha!  haha I am laughing here haha!!!

 

Group hug

 

 both that's me  however I am also a nincompoop  a happy one

 

Yes you are very happy. You always take your happy pills. :D

 

Poopy heads I bet you'll love everyone very soon once you become accustomed and yes in one way or another we all are demented here and probably belong in Bedlam   hugs

 

Atavachron

 capisci  loved that and your whole comment above, you are sweet! xxx

 

Speaking of such but not related to this original topic, just for fun coz it's an Italian pun joke here you go  hugs

 Group hug inc. Barbu, he can run but he cannot hide

 

Thanks. I believe it's "capiche" though.  

 

I'm actually a tough guy too when I need to be. I think that usually it's only cowards or really insecure people who have to give others a hard time online though. You do it to my face in person and I won't be so nice about it. ;) But yeah since you are a collaborator on here I will send you a personal message next time it happens but hopefully the person in question will see this and back off from now on and leave me the f*** alone. :)

 

Awww nooo ... Lazland, you have a dry sense of humour and at times you are very sensible too but hahaha nope nah niet nao non etc at your worst I would rate you max at middle level grumpy hahaha!! lololol you are funny even if at times this was not your intent hahaha hugs

hahahaha!!! Yay!!!! hug! hugs are so much more fun! xx

 

If you want I can send to you via pm the exact thread or posts by this person then you can judge for yourself.  I admit that I have a low tolerance for negativity and unnecessary comments but that doesn't excuse the snippy and unnecessary comments from this person. I don't mean to vilify this person as I know he/she is respected on here but this person has told me in the past they would leave me alone and yet continues to be a nuisance. I can't help but think that this person just has a chip on his/her shoulder and knows they can get away with it. If they are reading this now I can tell them that they are mistaken.

 

Prog_Traveller,

 

I think you got the idea that you are most welcome and not to take everything said seriously. Unless someone physically threatened you or directly insulted and mentally abused you, I think we should leave it as this. That person who hurt/offended you might read this post too. You are sweet, leave it as it is now. Hugs xxxx 

Thanks. Hugs back to you. Can I give you the nickname prog princess? ;)

He is referring to me David. I hadn't made the connection until I saw this thread that Mr Prog_Traveller is the same person I had an unfortunate run-in with back in July over some silly misunderstanding (on his part). Today I had the temerity to voice my disapproval of two polls with the word "cheesy" in their leading poll question. Apparently this constitutes "bullying" and "harassing", and that makes me a "troll".

 

 

 

Yeah, but it's the way you go about it. You aren't diplomatic at all. If you want I can post the conversation here and let everyone decide for themselves. Then they get to see how you initiate the baiting and unnecessarily negative comments.  I don't understand why you just can't keep your negative comments to yourself. You obviously have some kind of personal issues where you just can't leave well enough alone. Others on here might tolerate it but I won't. YOu do it again and I will report you and now that you outed yourself hopefully you will learn and not do it again(somehow I doubt you are capable of that though since you love to bait people). Oh and being a former moderator on here does not excuse your bad behavior. Before anyone accuses me of attacking him or being aggressive let me just so that Dean is the only person on here I have ever had a serious issue with and if it wasn't for his negativity I would not have to resort to posting this thread in the first place.

 

Aww this is clearly a misunderstanding.

 

Dean you are very Grumpy at times true but  Prog_Traveller is completely mistaken about you really, you are very nice even when grumpy. I just met him, I like him he is very mischievous too just like me but also mistaken about you Dean and your no nonsense attitude added with your dark witty humour might be perceived as a negative but it's absolutely not!. You are my fav grumpy, I mentioned this many times before and in my scale, you are top level grumpy at a time hahahaha hehehe hihihi hohoho  hugs  love you, you grumpy cuddly thing!

There are much more interesting things to squabble about, I much prefer to focus on very silly happy things

 

I said it before but I'll say it again. It was not my intention to be deliberately negative. It is others who interpreted the word "cheesy" as negative not me. I just wanted to see if that description was accurate and as it turns out it was as far as how some fans feel about the music. I don't understand what is so wrong with a little cheese now and then. People say some albums I really like are cheesy and that's fine. It's up to how others how they want to interpret it. However, if it's not one thing it's another with certain people on here. I'm convinced of that. Most people had no problem with my polls. A few did and most of them expressed their opinion in a polite and civilized way.

 

If I said I wanted to see if people considered certain albums to be sleepy is that a bad thing too? Some people would interpret that as them being boring. Maybe I'm just looking for opinions about what albums are good to fall asleep to. See, it's all about how you chose to interpret things.  

 

I do apologize to those who were offended by my polls and thought they were negative. As they say you can't please everyone. I will just suggest to you guys not to take the polls so seriously. There was no personal attacks in the polls themselves and not even on anyone's tastes but still some of you guys were clearly offended by it even though it was not my intention to offend anyone.

 

By the way, does anyone know of any good prog lawyers? I think I need one now.

 

 

Anyway,  I don't know what to say except now you know who I have been having problems with. Should I just not post on here anymore since obviously certain people can get away with being a troll? I really am not interested in participating in the wild west of prog forums so maybe that's the best thing for me to do.

Good lad! Now let's go back to our discussions about prog. Actually, I don't quite like the "prog" term. Somehow it reminds me about "proctology" for some silly reason. "Art rock" - this sounds and looks far more appropriate! But, I guess, the majority already made their decision..

Prog_Traveller, I love your spunkiness and direct approach lol but believe me no one here especially the above are bullies, when you get to know them you'll love them. It's easy to misperceive or misunderstand things, Dean is very direct and at times might seem harsh but he is one of the most sweetest people on here, I like him a lot. You two should leave it and rather focus your energy on funny and very silly things :) xxxxx   

Sorry but that's bollocks. You've been around this place for long enough to know what 'cheesy' means, or else you wouldn't have posted threads relating to both Metal and Neo. You used that deliberately as a way to seek out a reaction in people. Well you got it. Now you're just making a backwards explanation in order to have us all look at Dean like the bully he really is... Nahh He saw through you like he's done before, and you can't handle that. There I said it. If you can't handle that, then yes you should probably look around for other prog sites. 

Also you've started another thread exactly like this before, where you too tried to hang Dean out to dry. It didn't take, so now when you're engaged with him once again on the backbone of something you yourself started, you come crying with your troubles. 

Either take it to PM with him, me or any other admin. This is not worth the space of data.