Sneering from a position of concealment

I don't think that sniping is a problem on this site. Do you have any specific complaints? No need to point the finger, but your post does seem a bit vague.

I think this is a well-moderated forum,the admins do as much as they possibly can to make this a nice place to come visit and talk about this music that we love(among other things).

As a long time lurker who recently de-lurked with considerable fear and trepidation, I have to say that I haven't experienced any sniping, abuse or flaming on this site - and, believe me, I looked in from the outside for a good while before I first replied to a post.

I've been a member of many internet forums, and been on the receiving end of some heavy stuff, so I think I speak from some experience when I say that generally speaking this is a well run and safe site.

That's my 2 cents anyway

Big Ears wrote: We'll agree to disagree onthe first point. Both experienced and witnessed to the second. On the next occasion I encounter sniping,  I'll try to be specific without playing into the sniper's hands.

Why don't you just visit another site if it distresses you. We are all happy here for the most part

Wow, topic in which name I don't know 1.5 words. Sneer = look ?

Oh and to be honest, I feel good here. Non answered topics bothers me sometimes, also fact that most people visits and posts (including me) just in first section here on forum, Prog lounge, but so far, no feel of being endangered. Heh, Ricochet has eye avatar, so I suppose he's watching (or at least his avatar is). And you have total of six eyes Big Ears (are these ears those of these cats?), so that's literal meaning of having pair of eyes even on my back.

There is, however, one collaborator I'm little bit afraid of. He scares me (also a little bit).

 

Epignosis wrote: Boo!

Actually, you're third most scariest for me.

But hell (is hell scary) I have to thank you for keeping eye on grammar level. Or at least I read post by you somewhere, that you care for good language. Also your reviews are often on the same level of stars as my are. And your posts are in to-the-topic style, something I'm not able to do.And I saw your photo, it also helps. And you don't look mean.

Nope, someone else .,..

MartyMcFly89 wrote:   Epignosis wrote: Boo!  Actually, you're third most scariest for me. But hell (is hell scary) I have to thank you for keeping eye on grammar level. Or at least I read post by you somewhere, that you care for good language. Also your reviews are often on the same level of stars as my are. And your posts are in to-the-topic style, something I'm not able to do.And I saw your photo, it also helps. And you don't look mean. Nope, someone else .,..

ME ME ME!!




I think a bigger problem on this site is the members that have seen every topic 100 times and prefer to highjack them or throw them off topic with random blurts and pictures.

Can't be me....I'm nice.

There was a line after these dots, which I deleted, to prevent revealing the truth. You are not The One (again, Babylon 5 quote), even your Boondock new avatar is good (great movie), assuming that I'm correct in that guess. And your last one was also nice.

The Doctor, you're the one who was doing this to me back in Hill Valley high school. No, I can't be mad at you 

But back to topic, sniping is bad thing, very bad thing. And hard to prove. And after all, hard to think about, when you're victim, because it's the bully, who's in charge of it, who's doing it. You're terrorized by him and this affects you. Negatively. Friend tackling and argues are normal here, there's nothing bad about playing this game with someone you know for some time and both of you want it. But .. you know. 

Edited by MartyMcFly89 - September 09 2009 at 12:50

Interesting topic, and a good one to discuss concerns in an impersonal manner (general perceptions).  I apologise in advance for going off on tangents, but I have a disorganised mind.

I have come across sniping at this board, as with any board I frequented.  As has been said, just use the report post button when you think you find cases of it, but be aware that what you find abusive may not be perceived as abusive by other people. If no action is taken, then you might consider PMing an admin to ask why, but better yet, I think, PM the person who you feel is being abusive so that you can share your concerns with that person in private, and hopefully discuss it that way.  I know  that I'd much rather be PMed directly about any infractions or rudeness, and would be more likely to change my course of actions than have some someone write about me.  The personal touch is considerate, though I would appreciate being privately reported to the administrators with the report post button so that any offensive posts could be removed quickly.  I know I have bad days, and it's not uncommon for me to write things that I regret later (of course such a person as me should be extra careful about minding my speech since I'm not always compos mentis). I'm already regretting writing this and feeling embarrassed.

I've also noticed this "scoring points" mentality with some, and I don't like that either. It's very difficult to have a rewarding discussion (exploration of ideas) with people when they're out to "win" and show superiority, and didactic people are a bit off a turn off for me, though I lean that way sometimes.  It's common for people to express themselves in a black or white manner rather than be willing to explore the grey areas -- thinking true or false instead of levels of validity.  I find too many judgemental, arrogant, pedantic, and sarcastic posts for my tastes, but that's been the same at every board I've belonged to (and I'm commonly guilty of coming across as obnoxious in various ways) -- others perceive things differently....


Edited by Logan - September 09 2009 at 12:40