It's best to think about what the person likes now, and find a gradual thing. With my very metally friend (understatement), I have been attempting to get him onto more proggy things, so starting with his already present love of Death Metal, it lead to Opeth and Meshuggah. This then led to Ephel Duath, who I would say are more obscure and leaning more towards the jazz side of the spectrum. I hope to eventually get him onto Zappa
He liked some of the Mars Volta's "Bedlam in Goliath", so I think as long as it's heavy and not uplifting, it may well appeal. Next stop: King Crimson!
So this go would go something like Death Metal in general -->Opeth/Meshuggah-->Ephel Duath-->the Mars Volta-->King Crimson(???)