SR VII

James wrote: Yep. He's also put a ban on her using the laptop this weekend.  To be fair, I'd be annoyed if she used it all the time when she's supposed to be sociable with her family and stuff (it's her sister's birthday).  However, using it once or twice for a short period wouldn't be that bad. Her sister isn't too sure about him.  Says he's weird and boring.  That's how I feel about him too. Not sure how her family feels though... I'm going to try and find out via said sister when Kim's gone.

This is kinda really reminding me of my mate Ben's situation with Sheridan, geezus and it means your situation kinda makes more sense to me in a way now.
World's always gonna turn in weird ways.

Basically, I 'called Kim on Friday and she was about to have her dinner, so I said I'd 'phone her back later.  Dan then text me 20 minutes later asking me if I can let him and Kim work stuff out.

I mean... all I was doing was calling her.  I wasn't interfering.  Just seeing how she was.  I wasn't planning on texting her that much anyhow.  I was out myself and didn't want to constantly text.  That's why I called her instead.

So when her sister text me later, saying Dan had her 'phone, it pissed me off!

MovingPictures07 wrote: HughesJB4 wrote: James wrote: Yep. He's also put a ban on her using the laptop this weekend.  To be fair, I'd be annoyed if she used it all the time when she's supposed to be sociable with her family and stuff (it's her sister's birthday).  However, using it once or twice for a short period wouldn't be that bad. Her sister isn't too sure about him.  Says he's weird and boring.  That's how I feel about him too. Not sure how her family feels though... I'm going to try and find out via said sister when Kim's gone. This is kinda really reminding me of my mate Ben's situation with Sheridan, geezus and it means your situation kinda makes more sense to me in a way now. World's always gonna turn in weird ways. What is it with boyfriends' authoritarian aspects? I never understood it.

No, Ben was never going out with her.
As far as I was concerned, she was allowed to be with anyone she wanted.
Heck, Ben got severely angry at me because me and her nearly had sex , but come on, she was single, so was I, he got angry just because he was in love with her, utter bullsh*t.

MovingPictures07 wrote: James wrote: Basically, I 'called Kim on Friday and she was about to have her dinner, so I said I'd 'phone her back later.  Dan then text me 20 minutes later asking me if I can let him and Kim work stuff out. I mean... all I was doing was calling her.  I wasn't interfering.  Just seeing how she was.  I wasn't planning on texting her that much anyhow.  I was out myself and didn't want to constantly text.  That's why I called her instead. So when her sister text me later, saying Dan had her 'phone, it pissed me off! That is completely ridiculous. How could you do that to someone you love unless you felt insecure about something? What's the reason behind that? Does he feel like he has to try to make his relationship stable constantly by cutting Kim off by everything or is he just a paranoid person to begin with?

I think he's naturally paranoid anyhow.  She was the one who wanted the break, due to distance.  However, as far as I am concerned, there's more to it than that.  If it was just a case of distance, why would he get so worked up and almost plead for her to come back?  She's said to me that she's in love with him () and that she'll wait 7 or 8 or 9 months until he moves back to Swindon permanently.  He obviously wants her now.  That's understandable.  However, they're pretty much still a couple, even though they're on a break.  He feels like they've properly split-up, I think.

Plus I'm her best mate, the one guy who knows everything (even about the relationship).  He probably feels threatened by me (and others, 'cause there are other guys she talks too as well).

So by taking her 'phone away, he's cutting off her friends.  The threats.  The same with the laptop.  She'd be chatting to me on it (although I've barely been online this weekend) or others... he wants her to himself, he hasn't seen her in weeks.

However, she needs her space and stuff too.  Her sister said she tried to go on her laptop a few times and Dan basically stopped her doing it.

I know what he's doing and he may think I'm naive and not know but I do.  Kim is naive though and isn't exactly sure what's going on.

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Doing fine, saw the Strawbs acoustic live yesterday. Pure magic!

MovingPictures07 wrote: HughesJB4 wrote: Indeed Alex:) Not much to add to that, but pretty much right on. With how much I know in regards to all of that, it's a wonder I'm single. Oh, yeah, the prog thing. Not to mention the fact that I'm hardly ever seen on campus outside of classes, the fact that I don't want a relationship right now, and of course, I'm not normal. I'm content.

Eh, I'll be single... forever.

MovingPictures07 wrote: HughesJB4 wrote: Indeed Alex:) Not much to add to that, but pretty much right on. With how much I know in regards to all of that, it's a wonder I'm single. Oh, yeah, the prog thing. Not to mention the fact that I'm hardly ever seen on campus outside of classes, the fact that I don't want a relationship right now, and of course, I'm not normal. I'm content.

HughesJB4 wrote: MovingPictures07 wrote: HughesJB4 wrote: Indeed Alex:) Not much to add to that, but pretty much right on. With how much I know in regards to all of that, it's a wonder I'm single. Oh, yeah, the prog thing. Not to mention the fact that I'm hardly ever seen on campus outside of classes, the fact that I don't want a relationship right now, and of course, I'm not normal. I'm content. Eh, I'll be single... forever.

It's easy to feel that way, but you never can predict the future for sure. Particularly when you have so much of it potentially ahead of you.